Recently I had a consult with a man who had going through a divorce in
which his wife has accused him of committing adultery. During the consult,
he informed me that yes during the marriage he did have sex with some
individuals other than his wife. However, he only participated in the
swinger’s parties because it had been her idea.
It is not uncommon during a relationship for spouses even when innocent
to be accused of having an affair. Sometimes those accusations will land you in a
Texas divorce lawyer’s office. You may find unfairness of the accusations and emotions you are
experiencing tough to deal with.
Sometimes the accusations are a result of:
- Your spouse’s insecurities or
- a diversion tactic by your spouse designed through you off guard of their
Some of the things I have observed as a
divorce lawyer regarding accusations of cheating is not uncommon for the accuser to be
engaging in cheating themselves.
Alternatively, if someone is very insecure in the relationship they will
start to accuse their partner of cheating. This insecurity can lead to
other bad behavior such as stalking, snooping, listening in on phone calls,
or hacking into emails. Behavior that ultimately drives a wedge in the
relationship that causes a spouse to walk through my office door seeking a
Disputing the Accusations Will Not Make It Better
Another woman I met with recently is going through much of what I described.
Her husband has placed a tracking device on her vehicle, listening devices
all over her home, cameras all over the home, and has hacked her email
account. She feels like a prisoner in her own home. When she was telling
me, this I was thinking “no wonder she is here.” However,
that bad behavior was not what brought her though my door it was the fact
that he kept accusing her of cheating on him and she wasn’t.
She told me if she thought it would do any good she would try and prove
to him that she wasn’t cheating. However, arguing her point had
never helped it only made his behavior crazier.
It is Natural to Feel Guilty Even when You are Not
Despite the fact that she was not a cheater, she still felt guilty on some
level. The woman I met with felt guilt that you could not do more to convince
her spouse of her innocence and that her husband thought she was cheating.
She also felt guilt that she was in my office preparing to leave a marriage
over something that never happened. However, his behavior was scarring
her so that she no longer felt safe when he was around her or her children.
Free Yourself from Negativity
An important step to take to free yourself from these negative emotions
is to realize it is your spouse is responsible they are the ones who created
this situation and not you.
You might other consider seeking counselling for you and your children
to help you with what you are feeling while going through the divorce.
There many groups available for people such as you going through adivorce. My own church Second Baptist such a program “Divorce Recovery.”
“Divorce Recovery is a program designed to help individuals work through the issues associated
with divorce. Each seminar is taught by licensed counselors and covers
topics such as anger, self-esteem and boundaries. Whether you are separated,
newly divorced, or have been divorced for many years, this program will
meet you where you are in life.
For more information, please contact Lynn Roberts, email@example.com
What Is Adultery in Texas?
Under Texas Family Code section 6.003 adultery is a legal term in Texas
that means the voluntary sexual intercourse of a married person with one
not the spouse.
Disproportionate Share of Property
Although, Texas is a
no-fault divorce state which essentially means that neither party necessarily has to prove
the other spouse did anything wrong in order to get a divorce.
However, fault grounds can be relevant in
divorce when dividing the
Condonation of Adultery Section 6.008 – Defenses
Texas Family Code 6.008 states that “Condonation is a defense to
a suit for divorce only if the court finds that there is a reasonable
expectation of reconciliation.”
Various family law courts have also held that:
Condonation is the act of forgiving another party for committing an offense
that would constitute a ground for
divorce, legally, it is as if the act had never been committed.
- In suites for divorce condonation has been used to forgive acts such as
cruelty and adultery.
- To establish condonation the court must find that there is a reasonable
chance of reconciliation requiring forgiveness by the offending party
and repentance by the offender.
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