Parenting Coordination and Facilitation is defined in the Texas Family Code as: “An impartial third party appointed by the court, or by mutual mediated agreement, to assist parents in resolving issues related to parenting and other family issues arising from an order in a suit affecting parent-child relationship.”
Essentially, instead of continuing to go about your divorce or child custody matter an independent therapist or counselor would be appointed by your judge to help you and your opposing party arrive at a solution to whatever child custody matters are apparent in your case.
Called “Parenting Coordinators” or “Parenting Facilitators”, these folks have the task of promoting education and empowerment to you and your children’s other parent. Once you both have been able to see the issues a little more clearly- and are able to understand what alternative methods of dispute resolution are available other than a court date- you and he/she can negotiate a parenting plan that is in the best interest of your child. At the same time, you are able to minimize conflict and reduce the likelihood of a return trip to court in the years to come.
How can this be done? First and foremost communication is key. Part of the reason that you and your children’s other parent are currently engaged in a family law dispute is likely because communication is not one of your strong suits. It could be that you’ve had bad experiences with him or her previously and this area and you had more or less given up working proactively on any subject- including your children.
The benefit of having a Parenting Coordinator/Parenting Facilitator to assist you is that he or she is not emotionally invested in the relationship and as a result is able to help you to see the issues from an object and more impartial perspective.
What issues will a Parenting Coordinator assist you within a family law case?
The Family Code states which specific areas that a Parenting Coordinator is to help you with in terms of reaching a resolution on a parenting plan. He or she will assist you and your opposing areas in the following areas:
- Reducing misunderstandings;
- Clarifying priorities;
- Exploring possibilities for problem-solving;
- Developing methods of collaboration in parenting;
- Understanding parenting plans and reaching agreements about parenting issues to be included in a parenting plan and;
- Complying with the court’s order regarding conservatorship or possession of and access to a child;
- Implementing parenting plans;
- Obtaining training regarding problem-solving, conflict management, and parenting skills; and
- Settling disputes regarding parenting issues and reaching a proposed joint resolution or statement of intent regarding those disputes
From the perspective of a practicing family law attorney, these are all issues that come up with great frequency in a divorce or child custody case. Let’s examine a few of the most important ones that I believe a coordinator could stand to help you or any other person with during a family law case.
Again- if you are going through a family law it is very likely that there is at least one significant piece of information that is either being communicated poorly or is not being communicated at all to the opposing party.
This piece of information could be the motivation for seeking a child custody modification or could be the reason why you are seeking sole conservatorship of your child. Sometimes if the parties in a case allow their attorneys to act as the means by which communication is achieved then there can be difficulties in ensuring the message is conveyed correctly.
A parenting coordinator can focus on particular issues and communicate those to either side without the risk of misinterpretation or misunderstanding. If you and your opposing party understand where either side is coming from it is easier to approach him or her with goodwill in hopes of reaching a settlement on an issue relating to your children. At the very least, you both will be able to operate with the same information in mind.
Developing methods for collaboration in parenting
It could be that you and your opposing party have ample opportunity to come together to show a united front to your children but have just not identified those opportunities. What if you not only saw those opportunities for what they are but was able to work on them in an environment that encouraged teamwork? That seems like a win-win for me.
Your children would be able to benefit from their having both parents weigh in on the same side of an issue. You and your opposing party have now one less issue to fight about and can actually feel like you accomplished something together for once when it comes to parenting.
Settling disputes regarding parenting issues and reaching a proposed joint resolution or statement of intent regarding those disputes
If you can utilize a parenting coordinator to increase the lines of communication between you and your spouse and then to pinpoint particular issues that need work it is more likely that you can avoid having to rely on the judge to resolve those issues.
Every parent’s goal in a family law case should be to make decisions that are in the best interest of their children. By going to the opposing party in your case in an honest effort to settle any outstanding issues the chances of reaching an agreement that does so increase dramatically.
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