By far the most frequent question that I field from potential clients of the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC has to do with custody. Concerned parents come to talk to us all the time about how their impending divorce will affect the lives of their children. The word that parents use frequently is "custody" to frame their questions.
What about sole custody? How do I get that if I don't trust my spouse to care for the kids after the divorce? Or what about split custody? I want to see my kids just as much as my wife once the divorce is finalized. Control is on the lips of almost every parent that walks through our door.
Would it surprise you to learn that the word "custody" doesn't appear in the Texas Family Code even one time? This is true. We all commonly think about when we use the word "custody" encompassed by the term "conservatorship" in our state laws regarding the relationship between children and their parents/guardians.
The conservatorship has mostly to do with the rights and duties that parents/guardians have in raising a child. How these rights, obligations, and other aspects of parenting relate to your divorce will be the subject of today's blog post.
What does conservatorship mean for you and your children?
Being a child's conservator means that you can make decisions for that child until they reach the age of majority. Where your child lives primarily, where the child will attend school, decisions regarding medical procedures, and decisions regarding mental health and psychiatric treatment are all critical aspects of any discussion on conservatorship. These are the meat and potatoes issues of parenting a child in Texas.
The type of conservator that you are determines the breadth of responsibility and ability, in general, to make these sorts of decisions for your child, or at least be involved in discussion with your ex-spouse after your divorce. Parents can share these sorts of rights, and in the interest of full disclosure, typically do share in these sorts of rights absent extreme circumstances.
Should a court deem it in the best interest of your child, you may hold certain rights that your spouse does not and vice versa. If you and your spouse disagree on allocating these rights and duties to raising your child, it will be left up to a judge to make those determinations for your family.
Visitation, Possession, and Access: How these subjects relate to one another in a family law case
The term visitation seems straightforward enough. It doesn't take a detective to figure out that visitation has to do with either your or your spouse's ability to visit and spend time with your child. The concept of visitation is wrapped up inside possession and access to your child in a Texas family law case.
Possession more specifically refers to your and your spouse's right to have actual, physical custody of your child during a specific period that is predetermined by your Final Decree of Divorce.
Instead of coming up with a schedule on the fly, your divorce decree will very specifically lay out a visitation schedule that you and your spouse will be expected to follow. However, if you and your spouse can work together after the divorce on modifications where the need is, that is probably the best-case scenario for both of you and your child.
What can you and your spouse agree to in the context of visitation/conservatorship?
You and your spouse are free to hammer out an agreement between yourselves and your attorneys that do not involve the court and a judge one bit. As I stated a moment ago, this is by far the best-case scenario as you all will be much better equipped to do so than a judge.
While well-meaning, a judge will not have the time to learn enough about you and your family, even after a trial, to make a well-informed decision when compared to your spouse and yourself.
However, it is not enough to tell a judge that you and your spouse will "play it by ear" after the divorce as far as a possession schedule is concerned. The State of Texas has within the Texas Family Code a Standard Possession Schedule that you can mimic, or you all can come up with your arrangement based on your particular family circumstances.
Joint Managing Conservatorship is not the same as split custody.
As parents, what we want most with our child is time- or so we think. While spending time with our kids is essential, what we need is the ability to play a role in their upbringing in decision-making abilities. A joint managing conservatorship is a default setting for parents in Texas to share in the rights and duties of parenting their child.
This means that except for a few differences, you and your spouse can have pretty much equal say in raising your child and determining the course of their young life.
This does not mean that you and your spouse will necessarily have "split custody." If you want to have your child as much as your spouse, it is likely that you all will have to think up and agree to a means of sharing custody that is outside what the Texas Standard Possession Order sets forth. This may not be a problem, but it will require some negotiation.
The conservatorship will be discussed tomorrow on this blog as well
Come on back for a continuation of our discussion regarding conservatorship tomorrow. The Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC, wants to provide you with the resources and information to assist you in learning about your family law case. If you have any questions about this subject or any other family law, please do not hesitate to contact our office today.
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