Your home is likely to be the most significant single investment that you have ever made in your life. While you may have retirement funds and other assets that have grown to be worth more than your home over time, your house represents a single purchase that is almost surely worth more in dollars than any other item that you own.
Not only that, but you have built up memories in that home. Your children may have come home from the hospital to that home. This home may have been the one that you purchased with your wife right after you got married. These are real-life considerations to make when considering your options in conjunction with buying or selling a home in a divorce case. After all, these are personal finance decisions. You cannot altogether remove the personal aspects to these issues no matter how hard you may try.
Finding a balance between the business and personal side of financial decisions in a divorce can be extremely difficult. You will be faced with circumstances that require you to take positions as to what is best for you and your children moving forward. What is best for you all isn't always what feels best at the time, however. You may have to go through tough times initially to receive the rewards of your decisions down the road.
In today's blog post from the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, I am going to introduce to you the topic of how to handle your family home in a Texas divorce. There are a great many circumstances that may arise in your divorce that can impact this decision. As I have already mentioned, you have personal circumstances that will almost indeed become relevant to making a decision. These blog posts will hopefully provide you with some baseline knowledge to guide you as you begin your divorce case.
Know the basics of how your house will be handled in a divorce
It would help if you worked with your attorney and their staff right off the bat to learn how your home could be divided (or not) in your divorce. This is not an issue to learn about during mediation or the day before a trial. There needs to be a great deal of planning and negotiation done regarding your family home. This goes double if you have children living in the house currently.
You should ask your attorney what the options will be as far as who gets to use your house during the divorce, how it will be appraised and valued if you and your spouse sell it, and how you could be awarded the home. While we already know that there are emotional aspects to the sale of a home, you should not attempt to remain in the house if you are not financially able to do so. Your attorney will help you sort through these issues to make intelligent decisions emotionally and economically.
I do with clients to find a balance between personal and financial concerns regarding the house. It is a given that you will have some degree of attachment to the house. Even if it is not the first home you purchased or is even a house you like anymore, there will be some degree of nostalgia. If you can accept those feelings for what they are and balance them along with the reality of your situation, then you are in an excellent position to make solid decisions for yourself and your family. Do not ignore those feelings of nostalgia and the memories associated with them, but at the same time, do not allow them to rule over your decision-making capabilities.
Can you stay in the house after a divorce? It's all about the numbers.
One area where the sentimental value of the house needs to be set aside in favor of a pure dollars and cents analysis is whether or not you can afford to remain in the home after the divorce. I see the need for this sort of analysis pretty often when we represent mothers in divorce cases. It may be your first instinct to want to remain in your family house after the divorce to maintain some degree of stability and consistency for your child. Your kids may be begging you to stay in the place so they can attend the same school and have the same friends nearby. However, you need to give your checkbook a hard look to determine if this is feasible or in your best interests.
The fact is that if you cannot afford to pay the mortgage to your home with only your income, then you should not attempt to negotiate to remain in the house. If you are not working currently but believe that you can find a job right after the divorce, you should not attempt to negotiate to remain in the house. Do not assume that everything will work out for you from a financial perspective. Do not rely upon court orders that "assure" you child support and spousal maintenance will be paid. Those are not givens, unfortunately.
Unless you are currently working, have little to no debt, and have money in reserve in case of an emergency, you are not in an ideal position to try to keep the house after your divorce. I don't say this to upset you but rather raise issues that maybe have never been discussed with you previously. Your home should be a blessing to you and your family. Your home will become a curse if you allow it to take over your finances and put you in an uncomfortable position. To get your spouse's name off the mortgage to the home, you may need to refinance to both remove their name and get some money to pay them their portion of the equity. Without sufficient income or credit history, you will likely be unable even to do this.
This means you need to do a realistic assessment of your finances to see if you can remain in the house. That means paying the mortgage, insurance, taxes, and upkeep costs on your own. Do not assume anything regarding your future income or the availability of support from your ex-spouse. You may be best served to pull your share of the equity out, pay bills or any debts, and then rent for some time until you can figure out what is best for you and your children. It may not feel good to do this at the moment, but ultimately it can be what is best for you and your family.
As I mentioned earlier in this blog post, do not start to consider all of these circumstances at the last second before a necessary mediation or trial date. There is no way to properly think through all of these issues and arrive at a well-thought-out decision on how you want to proceed. Start to think about what these issues mean now rather than later. You stand to gain nothing by waiting. As unpleasant as it may be to decide what you need to move, the decision will not be taken from you just because you put it off.
Take your time and lean on those in your support system to help you make a decision. Your attorney can advise you from a legal perspective on how you would go about remaining in the house or moving out. Your financial advisor (if you have one) can advise you on what it would take from a money perspective to remain. If you choose to sell, your financial advisor can help you invest your money to put it to good use for yourself and your children.
Who gets the house during the divorce?
This is a question that I find most everyone going through a divorce is concerned with. Most people assume that someone will be able to use the house during the marriage. Still, there are always questions about how long they can stay, who is responsible for which bills, and whether or not the spouse who moves out has any right to return to the house to retrieve personal belongings.
The judge in your case can award either spouse exclusive use of the home during the divorce. That means that the court can say that either you or your spouse can use the house for living purposes daily- to the exclusion of the other spouse. This does not mean that you and your spouse can both live in the house under any circumstances during the divorce. If you have no other options, then this is a possibility. I wouldn't recommend it and would advise against it in most circumstances, however.
Most people have a pretty good idea about which spouse will stay in the house during the divorce. If you have kids, then almost surely the spouse who gets primary custody temporarily will remain in the home with the kids. Also, many spouses have already moved out of the house by the time the divorce starts. Depending on what circumstances you find yourself in, you will need to make plans to either move out or remain at home without your spouse.
There are no set factors that the judge in your case will look to when determining which spouse will remain living in your house during the pendency of your divorce case. The most crucial factor to judges is that whichever of you two gets awarded primary custody of the kids will more than likely be the one who gets the house.
Another critical factor is whether or not the house is the separate property of you or your spouse. However, do not assume that just because the house is a separate property that you will automatically be awarded use of it during the divorce. The judge cannot change the characterization of your home to being community property. Still, if you are not awarded primary custody of your kids, I would not be surprised if some judges awarded your spouse exclusive use of the home.
Money considerations for being awarded exclusive use of the home during a divorce
There are financial considerations that a judge must make when determining which spouse will have exclusive use of the home during your divorce. Spousal support can be awarded to you during the divorce if the judge grants you exclusive use and cannot otherwise afford daycare for the home. This spousal support can be temporary and is not necessarily a sign that you will be eligible for spousal maintenance after the divorce concludes.
Next, if you operate a business out of your home, that would be an essential factor for a judge to consider. The counter-argument would be that your business may not need to be operated out of your home precisely- just a residence of some sort. However, if you can show something unique about your family home that would otherwise harm your business if taken away from you, then that is something for a judge to think about.
More on the family home and divorce will be discussed in tomorrow's blog post.
We hope that you have found this information helpful and relevant to whatever circumstances you find yourself in. We invite you to head back to our blog tomorrow as we continue to discuss this topic with you all.
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