What Are the Signs That You Should Get a Divorce?

In Texas, divorce operates under a “no-fault” principle, where neither party needs to blame the other for the dissolution of the marriage. However, if one party can prove the misconduct of the other, they may be deemed “at fault” for the divorce. These signs indicate it’s time for a divorce. While these are just a few indicators to consider if they resonate with your situation, there could be various other factors contributing to marital breakdown. Divorce represents a significant life choice impacting not only the couple but also their families and friends.

Adultery in Divorce Proceedings: Evidence and Implications

Adultery is the main reason people end up getting a divorce. It is when a sexual relationship aside from the marriage takes place. If you can prove adultery, it can potentially impact things such as child support or spousal support. Adultery can either be proved with direct evidence or circumstantial evidence. Direct evidence is first-hand evidence like photos, videos, or even your spouse admitting he has had a nonmarital affair.

Circumstantial evidence is indirect evidence that may show that your spouse has committed adultery. These include bank account statements, phone records, texts/emails, and other records that show the interaction between your spouse and another. If you believe your spouse is partaking in an extramarital affair, it is essential to continually document and retain any evidence, whether direct or circumstantial, that will help prove so.

Alienation and Living Apart

Another sign that is common to recognize a divorce may be in your near future is if your spouse has begun to alienate themselves from you. Alienation of affection or constructive abandonment happens when a spouse has already started to detach themselves from the marriage, often due to a third party. As a result, you may notice changes in your partner, like a diminished sexual interest, resulting in a sexless marriage. Another sign that can go hand in hand with alienation is living apart.

It’s part of a new trend known as “Living Apart Together,” where some couples choose to maintain separate residences to strengthen their relationship while they are apart. It’s the equivalent of the saying “absence makes the heart grow fonder.” While this is true, the demise of most marriages can have their start by living apart. Some spouses believe moving apart can be the equivalent of a divorce but legally has no such effect. One client had lived apart from his wife for over three years and was ready to remarry, but he was still legally married to her. Living apart for an extended period qualifies as grounds for divorce and warrants consideration.

Financial Strain in Marriage

If not one of the most common reasons, people decide to go separate ways because of outstanding debts. Debts in a marriage can take their toll on a spouse and is the source of many disagreements. This is especially true if there is a disparity of earning power of the spouses and their ability to support themselves. This means that one spouse may bring in more of the community income or maybe all. This has become a massive factor in divorces where one spouse is the breadwinner and why it is not always a 50/50 split in a divorce.

Considering the parties earning power and capacities is necessary if there is an unequal division of the community estate. Wasting community assets too can be another ground for divorce if one party is disproportionately using the community assets. For instance, one client moved from the marital home with his mistress. While living with her, he used community assets to pay for their living expenses and luxurious frequent vacations. Had he remained in the marital home, he wouldn’t have incurred those living expenses but instead wasted community assets for his extramarital affair.

Fraud, Criminal Convictions, and Implications

Another ground for divorce is if the marriage has been founded on fraud. If, for instance, a spouse misrepresents themselves so grossly that the union would not have occurred if the truth had been known at the time, a spouse has been deceived. Some good examples of this are when people lie about who they are if they have had any previous marriages or children. If a spouse can prove this fraud, they may be entitled to a larger share of the community property.

Fraud can go hand in hand with criminal convictions. If your spouse has committed crimes, it can be a reason for the divorce if you can prove your spouse has been convicted of an illegal offense. For example, I once had a potential client come in for a consultation. She explained her husband was currently in an ongoing criminal case for sexual assault of a minor. Embarrassed by his actions, she decided she could not support him through this and knew it was the leading cause for their split. Criminal convictions and imprisonment of your spouse can indicate that it may be time to consider a divorce.

Spousal Health and Substance Abuse

The health of your spouse can have a significant impact on your marriage. While medical conditions are something that a spouse can not always control, spouses with alcohol and drug addictions may signal a divorce. Substance abuse is a painful and traumatic experience for marriage or family. Alcoholism can create a higher risk for domestic violence and is a leading cause of diminished relationships.

Likewise, drug abuse can lead to severe addictions that can affect a family in many forms. It is hard to watch your loved ones lose themselves to their addiction, which can affect familial relationships. Habits can lead to violence and, worse, an addict’s death. If you are in a relationship with health issues or substance abuse, it is essential to consider your mental health and understand what a priority in your relationship is.

These signs are the most obvious that a marriage may not be at its healthiest, but they are certainly not the only reason people get a divorce. These significant signs are red flags that should not be dismissed. If one or more of these relate to you, it’s evident that you may have clear grounds for divorce.


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Frequently Asked Questions

What are warning signs of divorce?

Warning signs of divorce can include increased conflict, lack of communication, emotional distance, and a decrease in overall marital satisfaction.

What is silent separation in marriage?

Silent separation in marriage refers to couples emotionally drifting apart while still living together, often resulting in a lack of intimacy and communication.

What is the walkaway wife syndrome?

The walkaway wife syndrome is when a wife disengages emotionally from her marriage, often due to unresolved issues or feeling unappreciated, and eventually decides to leave.

What is invisible divorce?

Invisible divorce refers to a situation where a couple remains legally married but emotionally disconnected, living separate lives with little to no interaction.

What is the most common predictor of divorce?

The most commonly cited predictor of divorce is often the lack of effective communication and unresolved conflicts within the marriage.

Is it better to divorce or stay unhappily married?

Whether it’s better to divorce or stay unhappily married depends on individual circumstances. Some people find divorce to be the best option for their well-being, while others may choose to work on their marriage.

What is stonewalling in a relationship?

Stonewalling in a relationship is when one partner withdraws and refuses to communicate or engage in discussions, often leading to further conflict and emotional disconnection.

How do you know your husband doesn’t value you?

Feeling undervalued in a marriage can manifest through actions like neglect, lack of emotional support, and not prioritizing your needs and feelings.

Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC | Houston, Texas Divorce Lawyers

The Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC, routinely handles matters that affect children and families. If you have questions regarding divorce, it’s essential to speak with one of our Houston, TX, Divorce Lawyers right away to protect your rights.

Our divorce lawyers in Houston, TX, are skilled at listening to your goals during this trying process and developing a strategy to meet those goals. Contact the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC by calling (281) 810-9760 or submit your contact information in our online form. The Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC, handles Divorce cases in Houston, Texas, Cypress, Klein, Humble, Kingwood, Tomball, The Woodlands, the FM 1960 area, or surrounding areas, including Harris County, Montgomery County, Liberty County, Chambers County, Galveston County, Brazoria County, Fort Bend County, and Waller County.

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