Divorces can be tricky. You probably didn't need me to tell you that. Still, many people experience divorces that involve one degree or another of complicated negotiation and problems associated with getting to the bottom of several issues. Divorce cases involve profoundly intimate and personal matters related to your family, relationships, and money. I can't think of many other processes that affect all of these factors and roll them into one setting. When you file for divorce, you can think about the case as being a business transaction, but in actuality, it is so much more.
Part of the difficulty in most divorce cases is identifying the pertinent issues and how to resolve them with your spouse without having to resort to going to court. I think a majority of people believe that divorces are almost always determined in finalized in court. This is not true. Most divorces settle outside of court without the need for any judicial intervention. There are many reasons for this, but I believe that cost, time, and the unwillingness to submit yourself to further examination by the legal system into your personal lives are among the most critical reasons why divorces settle in Texas with much greater frequency than they finish in the courtroom.
With all of that said, that does not mean that you and your spouse will never have to see the inside of a courtroom throughout your divorce. There is a reason that family law attorneys tend to be the busiest of all lawyers in terms of the frequency of trips to the courthouse. While your divorce may not require a hearing or trial, at least one of your attorney's clients likely requires a trip to the courthouse to finalize some matter related to their case.
One of the areas that you can expect to hit some roadblocks on the way to the successful completion of your divorce is dividing up your community estate. As I mentioned a moment ago, divorce means that not only will you and your spouse be splitting up time with your children, but you will also be splitting up your money. If your assets and debts are relatively small, then this may not be an area where your case faces a potential roadblock. However, suppose you own a home, own a business, have retirement funds, earn income from places other than your primary job or have a more detailed than average financial life. In that case, it may be the case that you and your spouse need to dig a little deeper into your finances to resolve your matter.
Depending on your willingness to be forthcoming with information during the divorce, the roadblocks you face could be relatively small or relatively large. One of the suggestions that I typically will provide to people when they ask how to best prepare for a divorce is obtaining essential documents regarding any of the above financial subjects that I just finished mentioning to you. Doing so will allow you and your spouse to organize yourself before the divorce starts and minimize any extra work needed during the case. It isn't often that you can save time and money by doing one thing, but I can almost promise you that you can keep both by following through with this piece of advice.
You can save yourself time because it is likely that you will be thinking more clearly in advance of your divorce than you will need during the case. I'm no doctor, and I have no medical knowledge of this phenomenon. Still, something seems to happen to a person's brain when they start a divorce where they are not as capable of completing tasks and generally thinking as clearly as before the case was filed. By organizing financial documents and being forthcoming with Information to your attorney before the patient starts to get underway, you can save yourself time and energy that otherwise would need to be devoted to this activity during the topic itself.
Additionally, you can save yourself money because if you have problems locating, organizing, or sending out Information regarding these subjects during your divorce, you will likely need help from your attorney. While there is nothing wrong to ask help from your attorney, that is the exact reason you hired a lawyer in the first place; it will cost you money for your attorney or their staff to help you sort their documents and organize them. Why not save yourself the hassle, time, and money and do the work yourself. This is especially true if you will be the spouse who files for divorce rather than the spouse who is served with divorce papers.
Why is it essential to organize Information for your divorce?
All of the preceding Information takes us to this question. Why do you even need to organize Information and documentation so meticulously, anyways? After all, aren't most divorces around six months in length? Don't you have all the time in the world, in that case, to organize yourself and put your Information together? Getting your ducks in a row shouldn't be that big of a need at the very beginning of your case, should it?
Here's the thing about organizing and delineating Information, especially regarding your finances in the divorce. Not only do you need to do this for yourself and your attorney, but you also need to do it for your spouse. Within a divorce, it becomes necessary at a certain point for you and your spouse to understand the nature of your case. While the issues surrounding your lives as parents may be more visible to each of you, your finances may be a mystery to one of you or even both of you.
Let's draw on an experience that I had in the past few years of working with a married couple going through a divorce here in the Houston area. This couple had been married 4 20 years, had three children together, and we're more or less able to work through the problems in their marriage. However, at a certain point, the two mutually decided to get a divorce. The wife ultimately filed for divorce from her husband, and she chose our law office to represent her.
Upon meeting with her for the first time, I wanted to get a better idea of her marriage and where things stood with her children and her finances. It became apparent very early on that the two of them had essentially agreed that our client, the mother, would be raising the children daily, and the kids would remain in the family home after the divorce. Once we determine how best to negotiate through issues regarding child custody, conservatorship, and child support, it made sense to consider the parties' financial state and how that issue was going to be attacked by both sides.
Here is where this family's divorce and our blog post come together: our client in this particular divorce had no knowledge or access to any financial information for her family. Essentially how the family operated was that the father owned a small business that was doing very well. Our client did not work in the industry and had no say daily about running the business. She had no interest in learning about the company and took no initiative towards that end, either. All she knew was that her husband owned a machine shop of some kind and that she had a debit account that allowed her to withdraw money as needed.
While this arrangement may have worked well for these two parents on a day in and day out basis, once the divorce started, this presented a problem. That problem was that Texas is a community property state, the value of that business and the assets held by the company or community property. This meant that they could be in probably should be divided up in our divorce. However, because our client did not know the business's financial details and even more than that, she had no access to even a checking account. She was entirely in the dark when it came to anything having to do with the family finances.
This is why you and your spouse must share Information about finances during the divorce. There is no way that our office could have adequately represented our clients' interests in this divorce without figuring out Information about the value of this business and any other finances associated with it. That doesn't even get into the Information about bank accounts, savings, investment accounts, and retirement savings. All these issues are pertinent in just about any divorce.
Discovery as a means to obtain Information in a divorce
in some divorce cases, the spouses may be able and willing to share Information without a court order. We see this happen when parties submit discovery requests upon one another at the outset of a divorce. Discovery requests seek to do precisely what you would think: discover Information as a means to learn about the case and learn a bit of the probable strategy of their opposing party. It is a commonplace 2 submit discovery requests upon your spouse at the beginning of a divorce. You will have approximately 30 days to respond to questions and turn over documents in; otherwise, submit yourself to the discovery process.
However, if you are not successful in obtaining valid Information from your spouse with a simple discovery request, you may need to take your case to a judge. This process typically begins with your attorney filing a motion to compel discovery with your family court. Essentially, your attorney will explain to the judge that despite your validly submitted request for discovery, your spouse has failed to respond in the time allowed under Texas family law. At that point, a hearing will be scheduled to have the matter addressed by a judge.
Suppose at the end of your hearing, after hearing all of the facts associated with your case, the judge decides in your favor. In that case, an order will be issued mandating and compelling your spouse to turn over the requested information you have sought. Your spouse will likely be ordered to pay whatever attorney's fees were necessary for your attorney to prepare and attend this hearing on your behalf. Not only that, they would be collected to turn over the financial documents that could have, theoretically, been submitted to you without much hassle by simply responding to your request for discovery.
If you are in a position where you are in the dark when it comes to your finances and believes that your spouse may have hidden assets or have Information that you do not have access to, then a request for discovery responses is a good idea in your divorce case. Once it becomes apparent that your spouse will not cooperate with your validly submitted request for discovery, you and your attorney should consider taking your case to a judge to obtain Information you have a right to access.
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