How Do I Know if I鈥檓 Ready for a Divorce?

The question of whether or not you are ready for divorce is an incredible fact-specific that I cannot answer in today鈥檚 blog post. I hate to let you down this early in the blog. Still, your life is unique to you and your spouse, and we need to know something about the circumstances in your life and the problems you are experiencing before I can give you an opinion on you and your family and your options moving forward. This doesn鈥檛 mean that you can鈥檛 get any perspective on your life but trying to learn from this blog post what you should do about your specific circumstances may be a mistake.

On the other hand, what would not be a mistake is to contact one of the attorneys with our law office to set up a free-of-charge consultation. A consultation with an attorney doesn鈥檛 commit you to representation, but it does involve seeking insights into your life and Texas family law.聽An attorney cannot only listen to your circumstances and give you perspective on what You are facing but can also provide you with more detail about the world of Texas family law and what you are likely to encounter as far as the divorce process in Texas is concerned. For many people who have little knowledge about divorce or have great concerns about what divorce means to their family, this consultation can be superb from a state of mind perspective.

Choosing the Right Divorce Attorney: Why Consultation Matters

Consultation with an attorney does not commit you to anything other than spending some time with a lawyer who has specific knowledge about the law and can apply that knowledge to your life in circumstances. What I recommend to people who are exploring their options when it comes to divorce is to meet with a handful of attorneys and not only gain their perspective but to determine whether or not that attorney is a good match for you and your family, both from a personality standpoint as well as from a price standpoint. Keep in mind different attorneys bring different qualities and levels of experience to the table in a divorce. You should select the attorney who represents unit divorce based not only on whether you feel comfortable with that attorney representing you but also on their level of experience and their vision for your case.

Suppose you have never met with an attorney or gone over your case with anyone before; I understand why this isn鈥檛 very comforting. Sharing information about your family and expecting that person to give you an honest assessment of those circumstances can be intimidating. As a pretty private person, I know that it is not always easy for me to open up to other people, especially when it comes to subject matter where I may be having to give information about things that are not all that pleasant about myself or my family. Sharing this information with someone you trust in an informal setting is preferable to entering a divorce without having done so before, as this information will likely emerge during the divorce proceedings.

Realistic Expectations in Divorce Proceedings

The other thing to keep in mind about consultations with attorneys is that the attorney will have likely heard similar information from other people many, many times before. You should expect that the attorney will have some degree of experience dealing with your problems before with other families and would therefore be able to provide you with real-world and practical advice on how you could proceed with your divorce. Do not expect the attorney to map out your entire divorce for you in consultation. Still, you should expect that attorney to be able to provide you with some detail about how your case may go and what issues you may experience in the case itself.

This is the beauty of consulting with a family law attorney before the beginning of your case. You don鈥檛 need to speculate about potential outcomes or how specific issues might be handled legally or in negotiations.聽All you need to do is seek the advice and perspective of licensed attorneys, and you can learn much more about the circumstances you are facing. If you鈥檙e unsure about proceeding with divorce, consulting a family law attorney should be your first step to determine whether to move forward.

A divorce is not an immediate end to your marriage.

Some of you reading today鈥檚 blog posts are fed up with your marriage and just wanted to come to a close. If you have suffered from an unhappy relationship for some time, it would be understandable to want some closure in your relationship. Given your strong desire to end the marriage, you must understand that a divorce will not immediately do so. Instead, a divorce becomes official at the end of the case when the judge signs off on the final divorce decree, involving all parties, not at the beginning when the divorce is first filed.

The 60-Day Waiting Period

A divorce in Texas takes at least 60 days from start to finish. After filing for divorce, you鈥檒l encounter a 60-day waiting period before finalization. Hence, anticipate remaining legally married for a bit longer post-filing.聽This is not a huge deal for most people, but for some of you who want an immediate emotional release from the marriage, it will be important to know that this will not occur.

Some of you may be wondering why there is this requirement for a divorce to take at least 60 days. After all, if you can buy or sell a house in 60 days or purchase a firearm in a fraction of that time, why should it take 60 days to get a divorce? In general, Texas aims to avoid facilitating quick or easy divorces.聽Rather, it wants to offer at least a 60-day waiting period where you and your spouse would be able to contemplate whether or not a divorce was right for you and to seek other options as far as trying to salvage your marriage.