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Tips on giving in-court testimony in your divorce or child custody case

When a new client signs up with the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC and we begin to discuss their case the talk inevitably ends up on what information he or she has that will be able to influence a judge. I think the assumption most people have going into their divorce or child custody case is that everything dong in their case is just leading up to the judge banging a gavel and deciding whatever issues the case revolves around.

In some instances this is true. You may have a situation that you’re facing right now that will likely require the intervention of a judge in a courtroom.

As I tell clients frequently (and would tell you the same thing) testifying in front of a judge is not something that comes naturally to most people and is not something that is a pleasant experience. It doesn’t have to be the worst time of your life but it certainly won’t be something you look back upon fondly.

Even with that said, there are tips and tricks that you can utilize if faced with having to answer questions from a lawyer in court. While different people have differing abilities to testify well the bottom line is that you want to be honest, respectful and comfortable while on the witness stand. Let’s get into some pieces of advice that I believe are important to consider before even stepping foot into a courtroom.

The most important part of testifying: Honesty

If you have never stepped into a courtroom before then your opportunity to act as a witness in your ownfamily lawcase will inevitably be a nerve wracking experience. There’s no two ways about it and there are no magic words that I or any other attorney can tell you that are going to put you 100% at ease prior to testifying. What I can do today is to put your testimony into context and help prepare you for what to expect.

Above all else, being ready to testify means being ready to be honest in your responses. This does not mean only embellishing the truth a little bit or just slightly exaggerating some bit of information. This means being completely truthful when answering questions, even if this means hurting your case potentially. While we’re on this subject I will say that what you think your “case” is comprised of and what your case actually is may be two different things.

It may make sense for you to talk to your lawyer prior to the hearing about what exactly he or she thinks you all need to accomplish in your hearing or trial and how you all will accomplish those goals.

On a practical level, lying under oath is not advisable because it destroys your credibility in front of the judge. So much in family law is comprised of little, teeny-tiny truths that are a big deal to a judge when it comes to splitting up assets or determining whether you or your spouse will have primary custody of your child. If it comes through that you are lying under oath the judge will see you as a person who is not capable of following instructions or being forthright in your actions.

Your credibility (your ability to convince the judge that what you are saying is accurate and based in fact) does down the drain. What’s more, lying under oath is a crime called perjury. Perjury carries with it penalties that include jail time. That’s not to say that you should enter court worried about losing your child and your freedom. I am telling you this information to make sure you are aware of the importance of being truth in your testimony.

If you are worried about divulging potentially damaging information to the judge in a hearing or trial it is best to discuss this with your attorney well before you go to court. This way you and your attorney will be able to game-plan for that information to be revealed and how to proceed from that point forward.

As an attorney, the most helpless feeling in the world is to be blindsided by your witnesses’ testimony at the hearing or trial. If I had time to prepare for that testimony to be given I may have been able to mitigate the damage to your case with some planning. However, when I hear that information for the first time while you are on the stand my ability to limit its effect on the judge is severely worsened.

What is your attorney’s job during the time that you are testifying?

Your job as a witness is to simply answer the specific question presented to you, whether by your attorney or the other party’s attorney. This means listening to the question and not giving excess detail that the question does not call for. Do not guess at the meaning of question asked of you.

Do not assume that a word means something if you do not know. There is no shame in asking your attorney or the other attorney to re-phrase or re-ask their question. The judge is not going to laugh at you and neither will anyone else. Once you understand the question, and are ready to answer the question you can go ahead and do so.

Part Two in our series of blog posts on testifying in court will be posted tomorrow

A subject as important as how to testify in your family law hearing or trial requires more time than I am able to provide today. With that said, please be on the lookout for the second blog post on this subject set to be posted tomorrow.

As always, if you have any questions in the field of family law please do not hesitate to contact the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC today for a free of charge consultation. Our licensed family law attorneys are available six days a week to discuss your situation with you and answer questions in a comfortable environment.

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