Like all things in life, good and bad, your CPS case and investigation will eventually end. If you are just beginning the process it may not seem like it but it is absolutely true that CPS will not be a part of your life for an indefinite time period. If your child was removed from your care a legal case was begun and now a judge has issued a ruling on the subject. Whether the judge has allowed your child to return home to you and your family- or if your parental rights were terminated- you have to move forward one way or another.
Today’s blog post from the attorneys with the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC will detail how you can best use the experiences you have had to build a bridge between the CPS investigation and the remainder of your life. A lot of how you deal with the aftermath of the investigation will be based on the ultimate determination in your case. We will start off by talking about how to deal with life post-CPS when your child will not be returning home to live with you.
When your child is not able to return to your home
No matter what the circumstances of your case, or why it happened, losing custody of your child is about the hardest thing a parent can go through that does not involve death. It could be that you agreed to terminate custody of your child because you agreed with CPS that you were not able to provide the sort of home life that is required of a parent. On the other hand, you may have hired an attorney and fought tooth and nail to have your child returned to your home. Not only were you unsuccessful, but your legal right to make decisions for your child and provide for her was also lost. This is the worst case scenario as far as CPS cases are concerned.
The fact that you are going through a lot physically and emotionally as a result of losing custody to your child is something that will take time for you to rebound from. There is no failsafe plan to rebound from this loss, nor is there a timeline that can tell you how long it is going to take you. The only thing that you know is that your child is not coming home and that you need to figure out how to live your life moving forward with this new reality.
This new reality requires that you look it square in the eye and not push any feelings away or onto the backburner of your mind. From parents that I have worked with, it is a wound that will not and cannot heal quickly in most situations. Give yourself the time and permission that you need to heal yourself and come away from the process a more complete person. It may seem improbable to actually be better off after your parental rights are terminated. On some levels that is true, but on others, you can improve yourself even if it is just as a single person and not a parent to that child any longer.
Find support and work with them through the loss
If you have family, friends, a church or other group of people that can act as a refuge and support for you then I would definitely advise you to lean on these folks as much as you can. Your feelings that you have let down your child, your family and yourself may be hard to bring up to other people but do not let pride come between you and recovery from this ordeal. Do not seek comfort in drugs, alcohol or other unhealthy and unproductive outlets.
That warning I just gave: to not seek refuge in unhealthy outlets- may seem hard to actually live by and I would agree with you. It is easy to slip into unhealthy practices or to pick back up unhealthy habits that you had attempted to give up during the CPS case. For these reasons, you should seek people who will reinforce healthy and productive outlets for your pain, frustration, and sadness.
Counseling is an effective use of your time if you can afford to obtain this sort of care and if it is available in your area. Online counseling sessions have become quite popular and are likely more budget friendly for those without health insurance or the means to pay outright for therapy sessions. Do not assume that this sort of step is beyond what you are capable of. Take the lessons that you learned during the CPS case- that you are responsible for you- and take the initiative to look into whatever options are available.
Finally, remember that you need to place yourself at the forefront of your life at this moment. Yes, you may have already been doing that to your detriment previously. This may be the main reason you’ve lost your parental rights to your child. But now the difference is that you can place yourself at the forefront of your life in a positive manner. Get yourself better and seek out those who can help you. Do not be ashamed to focus on yourself at this stage. You are not being selfish. You are being reasonable and take caution to protect your psyche.
What are the chances that your child could ever be returned to your home?
In brief- not great. Once your child is removed from your home and your parental rights terminated this is a giant red flag to your ever being in a position to have your child reintegrated into your home. However, there are some options out there for you to consider during this time.
For one, it is possible to appeal the court’s decision to terminate your parental rights. Your attorney can speak to you more about this after the case with CPS has ended. Be aware that you have a limited amount of time after a decision has been made to appeal the decision, however. You and your attorney need to consider what your chances of success are, what avenues you have to successfully appeal or file a motion for new trial and what your ability is to afford to do so.
CPS will work to have your child adopted after being removed from your home. It is possible that you can show CPS that you have improved your life and your home to the point where you are once again a suitable place for a child to live. If you are able to do so it is not out of the realm of possibilities that you could be reunited with your child. This is extremely unlikely, however.
Finally, many children will actually seek out their birth parent even after being adopted. These are the sort of stories that you may be familiar with from television and movies. Do not give up hope that you will ever be able to spend time with your child again. The circumstances may not be the same but there is always an opportunity to re-establish contact with your child.
If your child is returned to your home what can you do moving forward?
Tomorrow’s blog post will center around the other side of the coin in a concluded CPS case. Your child has been returned to your home and how you are left to pick up the pieces of your former life. Putting your life back together is a tremendous responsibility that you and your child have to work together on. We will talk more about how to do so in tomorrow’s blog post.
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