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Representing your children's interests in a Child Protective Services case

During a case that involves Child Protective Services (CPS) you would be excused if you lost sight on occasion of the fact that despite all the troubles and difficulties that you are going through, ultimately your child is caught up in much more stress and uncertainty than you are. You are able to remain in your own home, sleep in your own bed and even maintain many of the same routines as you had been before CPS came into your life. Your child’s routines have been altered dramatically. He or she may no longer be living with you and that is just the start of their changed lives.

What can you do to ensure that whomever is in possession of your child on a daily basis understands what he or she needs and sees to it that those needs are met? If your child has a special routine associated with a medical condition how would make it clear what that routine is? What about issues related to their behavior, or school or anything in between? Your role as a parent is not put on hold during a CPS case, but rather takes on an entirely new dimension thanks to CPS and their involvement.

Repeat after me: Stability and Consistency

I’m sure in your years of parenting that you have noticed that children are creatures of habit. Starting off when they are young a song cannot be sung just once- it will need to be repeated over and over until your little one is satisfied. TV shows on repeat, movies that are recited by heart. The list goes on and on.

Routine is also essential when it comes to their schoolwork ,extracurricular activities, bedtimes and a myriad of other daily responsibilities. Teaching your child to appreciate and live in a routine is better for their health and well being than serving dinner at a different time each weeknight or having no set schedule as to when homework needs to get done. It may sound boring at first glance but we both know that a child that can expect certain conditions and how to adapt to them is better off than a child who does not know what to expect.

Helping your child achieve stability and consistency in your home life was important as your child grew up and is still important now as you and your child go through your most difficult period as parent and child. The act of having your child removed from your home and placed into the care of a relative or a stranger was likely traumatic and something that you would hope to never have to go through again. If this is the way you feel, try putting yourself in the shoes of your small child.

The biggest transition is quite obvious- your child will be residing in a different home than he or she is used to. That means different types of expectations, different personalities and a different physical location. If consistency and stability are your goals when raising a child then they do not have to be set aside for the duration of your CPS case. On the contrary- these dual goals are more important now than at any other time in raising your child.

Make sure that you provide your child’s temporary caretaker(s) with your child’s favorite clothes, shoes, toys, blankets, etc. prior to your child leaving your home. While it’s not as if you can physically be with your child in the home of the caretaker, you can create some aspects of consistency that your child should recognize. These reminders of home may be exactly what your child needs during those first few difficult nights away from you and their home.

Make the caregiver aware of your child’s schedule

Don’t just assume that either your child’s temporary caregiver will be able to know or your child will be able to tell the caregiver the schedule that your child typically follows either during the school-week or on the weekends. This is a responsibility for you to take hold of no matter how you feel about having that much contact with the caregivers. Put your sadness and pride on the sidelines for a moment and do something positive to help your child get through these difficult times.

Remember that you have responsibilities as a parent, but your child has them as a student, a teammate and as a friend. If your child has band practice after school three days a week make sure the caregiver is aware of this. If your child is part of a study group that meets in the library after school and will need a ride home at 4:30 then this needs to be explicitly communicated. My rule of thumb would be to over communicate rather than under communicate. Worst case scenario you will have provided too much direction to the caregivers. This beats the alternative of not providing enough, however.

The names and contact information for relatives, friends, physicians, teachers, etc. should be provided in a list format at the beginning of the transition period from your home to theirs. In an emergency this information will come in handy and will be something that you will be upset at yourself about later on if you do not provide it as quickly as possible.

Again, there is no substitute for you being physically present in your child’s life. I cannot state this any other way. All of the above tips are some things that you can choose to implement in order to ease your child’s mind during a very hard time in their lives. Their perspective is much different than yours will be in all likelihood. Help them to get through and do as best as he or she can during this time period and some of the guilt that you will be feeling may be erased in no time.

What rights do you as a parent have in a CPS case?

With all of that said, the best way to stand up for your child is to know when to stand up for yourself. Did you know that you have rights from the minute your CPS case begins? It may not feel like it as CPS has the ability to run roughshod over your life and your child’s life but understand that the Texas Family Code contains these rights that you as a parent maintain throughout your CPS case.

Don’t let anyone from CPS try to convince you that your only option is to follow along exactly with what they have proposed. You may be questioning your instincts at the beginning of a CPS case. After all- it was your instincts that may have led you to having a life where CPS is actively involved. With that said, there are certain parental instincts that you have associated with raising your children that mean you need to take a long hard look at yourself and decide to stand up for your rights at every opportunity.

Perhaps the most important of those rights, and the one that we will begin tomorrow’s blog post by discussing, is the right to be represented by an attorney in many circumstances.

Questions about a CPS case and how to stand up for your child? Contact the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC

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