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Questions to ask yourself when getting married after already having children

Families come in all shapes and sizes. If you are in a relationship and are interested in getting married then you need to ask yourself some questions before moving forward with wedding plans. The answers that you get can be the difference between a long lasting marriage and one that is destined for hard times.

How does getting married for a second time affect children from your first marriage?

You have a moral and legal obligation to provide for your children. It does not matter that your previous marriage ended on bad terms, your obligation to those children remains intact as if the marriage never ended in divorce. Your ability to visit with your children from a prior marriage is not affected by your getting married to another person. If you have court orders in place from a divorce decree those orders are still in place as well.

If you have a child support obligation then your obligation is still in place as well, even after you marry another person and plan on having children with your new spouse. You know from experience that the amount of child support that you are expected to pay is a function of how much net monthly income you earn as well as how many children you have to support. You are still responsible for paying medical expenses and other costs associated with medical care.

Keep in mind that if you are receiving child support from an ex-spouse and get re-married, your ex-spouse will still need to pay you child support. In fact, the state cannot even consider how much money your new spouse earns as far as all of this is concerned.

What happens if your new husband’s ex-girlfriend accuses your husband of being the father of her baby?

It doesn't matter if your husband planned on having a child with his ex-girlfriend or whatever circumstances were in play. If he is shown to be the biological father of the child then he will quickly have a legal relationship with him or her. That means he is entitled to visitation and conservatorship rights, but also to have to pay child support to the mother.

A paternity test will be administered upon your spouse to determine whether or not he is the father of the child. The results of that test will determine whether or not he has any legal obligation to provide and support the child. It can even happen that he is named the father of the child without having taken a DNA test.

What can be done if you cannot afford to pay the child support you are ordered to pay?

You and your ex-spouse cannot negotiate between yourselves a lesser amount of child support to pay. That agreement has no legal force behind it and either of you can violate the agreement at any time with little or no recourse for the other to seek legal remedies. Only a judge-made order with their signature can change the amount of child support that you are obligated to pay.

A modification can be had if you can show that material or substantial change in the circumstances of you, your ex-spouse or your child can be shown to a court. A material and substantial change will be what the court is looking for. Or, you can show that at least three years since the last child support order went into effect to ask for a modification of a child support amount.

What can happen if you do not pay the child support that you have been ordered to?

Enforcement of the child support order can occur. Enforcement is a legal remedy whereby either your ex-spouse or the Office of the Attorney General can request that the judge issue a ruling on violations of a court order. The instances where child support was not paid, as well as the amount of any arrearage in support, would need to be provided to the judge.

Once a judge issues an order that states you owe child support there are a variety of options available under the law to collect the money. First of all, a wage withholding order may be sent to your employer that forces them to withhold from your wages a specific amount of money towards child support. You would be required to contact the court or the Office of the Attorney General anytime you change employers so that a new wage withholding order can be mailed out.

Next, if you were expected to get a refund on your federal income taxes then you may be left disappointed if you also owe child support. That refund check can be intercepted by the government to pay your back child support. Also, any licenses that you own- hunting, fishing, driving, etc.- can be temporarily suspended in order to induce you to pay the child support obligation.

The most far-reaching enforcement mechanism that a family judge has available to him or she is to send you to jail for up to six months. The basis for this would be that you are in contempt of court, i.e., you knowingly violated a court order. Many times you will also be awarded deferred adjudication in lieu of jail time, but if you fail to make child support payments while on deferred adjudication then that can be revoked and you can and will be sent to jail.

What happens if you pay your child support but your ex-spouse doesn’t let you see your kids?

This is an all too frequent problem for many parents across Texas. As difficult as it can be to pay child support on a monthly basis, the thing to keep in mind is that visitation and child support payment is not connected concepts. What I mean by this is that if you do not pay child support, your ex-spouse cannot withhold the kids from you.

If you find yourself in this situation then you and your ex-spouse are still bound to follow the child support and visitation orders contained in your final decree of divorce. Just because your ex-spouse is refusing to allow you visitation with your child, you cannot withhold child support as an inducement for her to allow you visitation. This is a messy situation, I grant you, but be aware that you could face consequences for the failure to pay child support if you decide to go that route. Instead, consider filing your own enforcement case against your ex-spouse and seek a legal remedy rather than some “at home” justice. Ultimately the child support is intended to benefit your kids, and withholding support will hurt them.

Should you combine incomes with your new spouse?

This is a central issue to any successful marriage. Money fights and money problems lead to more divorces in our country than any other issue, in my experience. The decision on whether or not to combine your incomes into a single bank account can set the tone for the rest of your marriage. For many people, it can leave you feeling vulnerable to allow your finances to be intermingled with another person. This can be especially true if you have had bad “luck” with your prior spouse.

In my opinion, combining incomes can be a good way for you and your spouse to interlock your values and attack problems together. If you go to pre-marriage counseling, many counselors will assign you and your spouse-to-be an assignment to create a budget together. This forces you to work alongside one another and to determine what is necessary for your home and what is not. If you see that you have disagreements or differing perspectives on various issues it is a good time to sort those issues out before you get married.

Think about all the “little” issues that combining finances and budgeting will force you to work with your spouse on. Subjects like giving to charity, weekly grocery trips, saving money for retirement, saving money for kids’ college tuition and many other areas of life are all important ones for you and your spouse to be able to work together on. If you do not combine incomes and instead operate off of separate balance sheets you may never get on the same page when it comes to these subjects.

What about the faith of your children? What says does your new spouse have?

If you are coming into a marriage with children from a prior relationship, you need to be sure that you and your new spouse are on the same page when it comes to religious practices. It is important that you be respectful of any differences that may exist. This is a subject that can be incredibly difficult for many people to discuss, especially when it comes to your children.

You have the right to direct the religious upbringing of your children to whatever extent you are allowed under your final decree of divorce. Most of the time, you will be allowed to expose the children to your religious beliefs when they are with you, and your ex-spouse can do the same when they are with him or her.

Will you be required to support your spouse?

The law in Texas is that you and your spouse must support one another during the course of your marriage. If you do not meet this responsibility then you can be held responsible by any other person or entity who has to then provide food, clothing, and shelter to your spouse.

What sort of property rights exist for married persons in Texas?

All property acquired by you and your spouse during the course of your marriage is considered to be jointly owned. This is also referred to as a community property presumption. Both you and your spouse own the property together, even if one of you does not work and has never contributed income to the marriage. The idea is that you and your spouse are partners in the marriage and share equally in the good and bad when it comes to property and debt.

Your family home, other real estate, vehicles, cash from bank accounts, investments, furniture, etc. all qualify as potential community property when it comes to your marriage. Like I mentioned in the paragraph previous to this one, your debts are also shared to an extent. It does not matter if you individually or your spouse individually purchased the real estate or the refrigerator. If it was purchased during the marriage then it is presumed to be community property.

What about income- is that community property as well?

Most marriages in Texas see two spouses working and earning an income. Once the money comes home, it does not matter if those incomes are not deposited into the same account. Again, many people have a preconceived notion that as long as you and your spouse never share a bank account that your money is yours and his money is his. That is not the case. With this in mind, you may as well combine finances and bank accounts to be able to work together on your finances.

Questions about marriage or second marriage? Contact the Law Office of Bryan Fagan

If you are entering into a second marriage it is likely that you have some questions about how your prior relationships can impact your current one. The attorneys and staff with the Law Office of Bryan Fagan under the problems that can arise in second and third marriages and we stand ready to assist you by answering questions about these subjects.

Our office offers free of charge consultations six days a week here in our office. These consultations are a great opportunity to ask questions and receive honest feedback about your particular circumstances. To arrange a consultation with one of our licensed family law attorneys please do not hesitate to contact our office today. We appreciate your consideration and look forward to the opportunity to meet with you and your family.

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