Having another person oversee the interactions that you have with your child is downright awkward. Imagine having a stranger sitting in your living room on Christmas morning while you and the kids opened up presents. Or think about what it would be like if you had a CPS caseworker in your kitchen as you were disciplining your son for purposefully dumping out a box of cereal all over the floor. Those are very intimate moments- different from one another- but intimate nonetheless. They are ones shared between you and your child and are not intended to be made known to the world at large.
If you are involved in a Child Protective Services (CPS) investigation it is not always possible for you to be able to interact and discipline your children to the degree that you would like. When CPS becomes a part of your life it is because some person has made an allegation of abuse or neglect against you. When that occurs, CPS has within its power the ability to remove your child from your home if it believes that doing so would be in your child’s best interests.
In order to have visitation time with your children after this, it is likely that CPS will insist that those periods of visitation be supervised. This means that another adult will be present throughout the time that you share with your child. As your case proceeds it is possible that your visitation would be changed to be unsupervised but for now, you will need to show CPS that you are capable of spending time with your child without placing your child at risk of being harmed.
The beginning part of today’s blog post from the Law Office of Bryan Fagan will center around supervised visitation. What is it like, how long can it persist and what can you do to make the best of it- for you and your child?
Supervised visits take place at CPS offices- most of the time
Depending on the part of Texas where you live, you will likely have supervised visits with your child at a CPS field office. Your child’s foster family or the person who is caring for your child (friend or family member of yours) will bring your child to this visit. CPS will not provide you with transportation so you will need to work that out in advance. Do not plan on having just one option for transportation. If your ride to the visit has to go in for work or has a sick child to take care of then you will need to find another way to make it for the visitation session.
There are special rooms at CPS offices that are dedicated to allowing moms and dads to interact and visit with one another for extended periods of time. These rooms have toys, games, and comfortable places for you all to sit. A CPS employee will likely observe the visitation session from another room via a one-way mirror. In some circumstances, the CPS employee may be in the same room as you and your child.
Most of the time there is no need for you to interact with the CPS employee who is observing your visits. He or she is there only to make sure that your child is safe. It may be that your CPS caseworker is the one who will be supervising the visit or another employee of CPS may fill in if your caseworker is not available. It is possible that your child could begin to behave poorly and in that case, you can ask the supervisor for some assistance in calming your child down.
Other people involved in your CPS case may watch your interactions with your child as well. For example, a Court Appointed Special Advocate (CASA) may observe your visits as well. He or she is not a lawyer but is a volunteer from the community brought into your case to observe the relationship that you have with your child. Their observations can then be testified to in court. Since you do not know who is watching you it is crucial that you always behave appropriately. Do not let frustrations or other emotions get in the way of what can be a great opportunity bond with your child.
You are responsible for your child’s needs during a visit
Even though CPS may have temporary conservatorship rights over your child you are still responsible for their basic needs while he or she is with you. Diapers, wipes and a change of clothes are all wise things to bring with you to visitation sessions. Lastly, it is a good idea to put your cell phone in the glove box or center console of your vehicle while you are inside visiting with your child. We all get tempted from time to time when it comes to looking at social media instead of devoting all of your attention to your kids. Doing so during a supervised visitation session would not be a good idea at all.
Maintain a positive attitude during a supervised visit
Nobody is going to argue with you that supervised visits are not ideal. It is weird to have another person looking at you while you are trying to interact and bond with your child. It may be weeks between the times that you are even able to see your child. This can add to the awkward nature of the interaction. With that said, these visits are all you have right now. Take advantage of the time that you are given and it is likely that you will be awarded more time as your case proceeds.
The end goal of these interactions is to allow yourself and the opportunity to have your child return home to you. This can't happen unless you are calm and conduct yourself in a dignified and adult-like manner. Acting frustrated and angry towards your child, CPS or anyone else will reflect poorly upon you and can add to the time that your child spends out of your house. Since you do not want this to happen I suggest that you control yourself and your emotions during this time.
Rules of supervised visitation are very easy to follow
It’s not like you will be told how to play with your child during a supervised visit. However, there are unwritten rules that you will need to follow to get the maximum amount of benefit from each session. For instance, you should always check in with your caseworker on the day prior to your scheduled visitation session to make sure that the visit is going to occur as scheduled. It could happen that your child is ill, the foster family cannot bring him or her or the caseworker will not be able to be present. In those instances, you may need to be flexible with rescheduling the visit.
Next, you need to be on time to these visitation sessions. You need to be honest with yourself as far as whether or not you are likely to arrive late. If you are constantly late to appointments, I would recommend that you do whatever you can to leave early for these visits. You are making a lot of other people wait for you. When your relationship with your child hangs in the balance it is not smart to have these other people involved in your case become frustrated with you on a regular basis.
Finally, you should attend every scheduled visitation session. No excuses. If you are sick or injured or have an emergency come up that is understandable, and you should not be expected to attend in those very limited circumstances. Otherwise, you should plan on attending each session. Remember- if you cannot be counted on to attend supervised visits for your child. It is unlikely that you will be given more time to spend with him or her as your case proceeds. You may know that you are a great parent who can be trusted but CPS may not know this. It is your responsibility to show them that.
The importance of supervised visitation on your case
The most important aspect of supervised visits in a CPS case is that your child is able to see you and spend time with you. Depending on the age and maturity of your child, he or she may not understand everything that is going on in your case. All he or she knows is that their ability to see you has decreased. With that kind of uncertainty in their lives, the stability that a visit with you can provide is incredibly important. Do not think that you are less of a parent or that you are less needed now that you are involved in a CPS case. In fact, the opposite is true- you are needed now more than ever in their lives.
Another important aspect of parenting your child in these supervised settings is that you are given an opportunity to show CPS how capable a parent you truly are. It may not be fair, but a CPS caseworker may see you only through the perspective of a person who is skeptical about your ability to parent your child safely. Use these supervised sessions to show that you are more than capable of being a good and diligent parent to your child.
Visitation sessions that are supervised are designed to help your case
CPS does not want to have to keep you from being in contact with your child. That is not their goal (in most cases). Their goal is to reunite you with your child. It is really up to you how quickly that happens. The folks with CPS are overburdened with work and do not have the ability to have you attend all the parenting classes and visitation sessions that have been laid out for you. The bottom line is that you are the one who will determine how quickly your case is resolved- not CPS.
CPS will watch how you and your child interact with one another. They can provide you with helpful feedback on what you do well as a parent and what you could do differently to improve your skills. It can be difficult to receive criticism from another person when it comes to your parenting. However, you should take their feedback in stride and aim to do better the next time you are given an opportunity to be with your child. If no feedback is offered, you should ask the CPS caseworker for their thoughts.
You can provide updates to CPS caseworkers on the courses that you are attending and the progress that you are making while engaging in supervised visits. If your visits with your child go well then your caseworker can recommend that a family member of yours be able to supervise the visits in your home or in the family member’s home. A park, a restaurant or other more “fun” location are also possibilities. The bottom line is that you should view these visitation opportunities to show that you are a capable and loving parent. The allegations made to them about your past behavior may or may not be true. However, they do not have to define you as you move into the future.
Questions about how to prepare for a supervised visit with your child? Contact the Law Office of Bryan Fagan
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