Often a lot of people jump to the decision that they should divorce without considering other options that may be available to help save a marriage. The most important thing to decide before jumping into the legal process of divorce is to make sure your divorce is over.
Many people tend to act with their emotions, but it is important to remain rational before making a major decision like getting a divorce in your life. It is not uncommon that people divorce and remarry, or even decide mid-divorce that they do not want to move forward. It’s important to spare yourself and your bank account the hurt and reconsider if your marriage is beyond reconciliation before taking legal action.
Marriage counseling and couples therapy are great areas to investigate if you are considering if your marriage is over, but often the most overlooked solution. Divorce is one of the top hardest times in a person’s life that can have lasting repercussions for some. Counseling has been downplayed in many areas, but most do not know what could have been if they do not try. Marital stress can be brought about from many forms that can bring a person to their breaking point if these problems go unaddressed. With that said, there are experts readily available to help couples with reconciliation. Communication is if not, the most important aspect of a marriage and a prime factor of the problems in a marriage if not effectively done. A counselor that can remain fair and impartial is key to help to find the solutions a marriage seeks and is achievable with two parties that are willing to find forgiveness to work out their marital differences.
Often, we have people that come in for a free consultation looking to get the upper hand on their possible divorce. Many are so eager to begin building a case when often the process altogether is avoidable. For instance, there was a couple that came in for a free consultation because they were considering a divorce, and the first question we asked them was if they believed their marriage was over. It was obvious there were mixed emotions between the two. They had not considered the option of marriage counseling to repair their relationship but instead were willing to jump straight into a divorce. We recommended counseling and even offered a few marriage counselors that we believed would be a great fit for the couple. After several extensive sessions, it was obvious that a divorce was truly not what they wanted.
If you are worried about what costs may be associated with counseling or therapy, it may be helpful to know that some insurance providers offer family therapy as a benefit. Even certain employee assistance programs can cover a fragment of your counseling. Understanding your insurance plan and benefit options are important to know, and some insurers may be required to cover couples counseling if the need arises from an existing mental health condition. Do not rule out counseling if assistance can potentially cover costs because the benefits can be lifesaving. Most of the time people are even willing to offer recommendations and referrals for counselors for you and finding the right fit for a counselor is imperative.
If you have determined that a couples counseling or couples therapy benefit may not work in the plans on saving your marriage other options that may work to by seeking out help and advice from family, friends, and if you are religiously affiliated, a church. It may be hard to bring up the thoughts about marriage to family, but friends are always a second alternative, that is also free. Everyone knows someone who has been through the trials you have faced, and it is sometimes best to get opinions on how a person dealt with their issues. Learning firsthand from someone who has been through it, can be an eye opener for some. Secondly, although most churches may not condone a divorce many would be willing to help their members that are going through marital stress. To avoid divorce, they may be willing to act as a counselor for free. There are many free alternatives a person can search into if they believe the cost is a prime factor that would hold them back from marriage counseling.
If you have sought out all options through marriage counseling, couples therapy, family, friends, and church your next step that may change your mind is seeing a divorce attorney. Before deciding to move forward it’s important to seek legal advice from a divorce attorney to put things in perspective about the legal process of divorce because many do not understand how much more of stress that can bring on a person. Many attorneys are willing to offer free consultations where you can get as much free information about the divorce process as possible. Every situation is unique and getting expert advice can have a greater effect on the outcome when you are directed about what course of action you should take.
The before, during, and after periods of divorce are so crucial to divorce and understanding what a person should and shouldn’t do during those periods is important to give people the results they seek. For example, if you have had an affair it’s important to discuss this with an attorney before considering mentioning this to your spouse. Texas itself is a “no-fault” divorce state, meaning there does not have to be a fault from any party to get a divorce. However, if you’ve committed adultery that could potentially be proven a spouse not at-fault could be granted a disproportionate share of community property. Therefore, knowing the precautionary measures you should take when considering a divorce is important to help make certain you do nothing to harm your legal case.
If you are unsure if you are wanting to move forward with a divorce, it may be because you believe your marriage can be saved. It’s good to know that there are options available to you in many forms that can prevent a divorce. It is also good to remain rational through marital stress and always reconsider if this is something that can be fixed because there are options to spare you the emotional legal process of divorce. The next time you believe something cannot be fixed, think if you and your spouse have exercised all available methods to reconcile your marriage.
If you want to know more about what you can do, CLICK the button below to get your FREE E-book: “16 Steps to Help You Plan & Prepare for Your Texas Divorce”
Other Articles you may be interested in:
- What is and Why do I need to do Discovery in my Texas Divorce?
- You've filed your Divorce... now what? The "Discovery Process" and why it's important
- 6 things You Need to Know Before You File for Divorce in Texas
- I Want a Texas Divorce but My Husband Doesn't: What can I do?
- Am I Married? - Marital Status in Texas
- Can I sue my spouse's mistress in Texas?
- 6 Tips - On How to prepare for a Texas Divorce
- Roadmap of Basic Divorce Procedure in Texas
- 6 Mistakes that can Destroy Your Texas Divorce Case
- Does it Matter who Files First in a Texas Divorce?
Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC | Spring Divorce Attorneys
The Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC routinely handles matters that affect children and families. If you have questions regarding divorce, it's important to speak with one of our Spring, TX Divorce Attorneys right away to protect your rights.
Our divorce attorneys in Spring TX are skilled at listening to your goals during this trying process and developing a strategy to meet those goals. Contact Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC by calling (281) 810-9760 or submit your contact information in our online form. The Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC handles Divorce cases in Spring, Texas, Cypress, Spring, Klein, Humble, Kingwood, Tomball, The Woodlands, the FM 1960 area, or surrounding areas, including Harris County, Montgomery County, Liberty County, Chambers County, Galveston County, Brazoria County, Fort Bend County and Waller County.