Timing is everything, as they say. Making the right decision sometimes isn't as important as making the right decision at the right time. Having a good thought but the thought coming too late or being premature in taking a specific action can be costly to you. When it comes to the world of divorce, I certainly agree that timing is critical. When we learn about how people succeed in divorce, typically, the right timing plays a significant role in their success. Having certain events lined up for themselves and their family take a negative experience like divorce and at least turn it into something productive and goal-oriented.
Helping people make good decisions about divorce is what an attorney does. Your attorney is not there to make decisions for you, contrary to popular belief. Instead, your attorney is there to assist in helping you avoid the potholes and wrong turns that can come up so frequently in divorce. Please do not underestimate how important it is to plan for divorce. This is true even if you consider your divorce to be straightforward and without much in the way of problem areas. I've seen people take a divorce that should be straightforward and turn it into a one-year-plus-long road trip through a rather unpleasant place. Instead, why not use today's blog post as a jumping-off point towards learning whether or not now is a good time for you to get a divorce?
This is the time of year where many of our minds turn to family. Thanksgiving and Christmas are times of the year built for families and making memories. However, if your family life is not where you want it to be, or you have seen problems arise in your household within your marriage, then you may be weighing your options in terms of getting a divorce. Of course, getting a divorce means that you have to consider a wide range of topics and the specific circumstances of your life.
This is where a blog post like the one you are reading right now becomes interesting. The reason is that I know nothing about the specific circumstances of your life. I'm willing to guess that your life looks somewhat like mine and like many of the other people I have helped get divorced over the years here in Southeast Texas. However, we all have unique circumstances and real-world challenges and opportunities that might not be in play for other people in even similar situations.
Therefore, I am not really in a position to give you specific advice about whether a divorce right now is what is best for you, your children, and your family as a whole period. Instead, ultimately that is a decision that you have to reach and be comfortable with. I would suggest meeting with one of the experienced family law attorneys with the law office of Brian Fagan before making a decision one way or the other. In that environment, one of our lawyers will take the time to walk you through your circumstances and help you identify areas that may lead you towards or farther away from divorce. These consultations are free of charge, and there is no sort of commitment required of you to hire one of our lawyers. Contact us today to help gain some real-world perspective on your circumstances.
Is a holiday divorce right for you?
I think getting a divorce during the holidays would be less than ideal. True, many people around us are going through a divorce right now. However, going through a divorce during the holidays is one thing but choosing to begin a divorce right now is an entirely different subject altogether. From an emotional perspective, you may want to consider your options for immediately filing for divorce. Many of us would consider getting a divorce right now to be something that can detract from whatever kind of holiday environment he wanted to encourage for your family more placing a financial burden on you and your family at the end of the year.
With all of that being said, I do not want to make it seem like there is no good reason to get a divorce during the holidays. This is especially true if there is violence going on in your home. If your spouse is abusing you, it does not matter that this is the holiday season. You need to take steps towards learning more about the divorce process, filing for divorce, and then obtaining an emergency protective order to prevent future incidents of abuse. While a piece of paper from a judge is far from a sure thing when it comes to preventing harm from occurring in your household, it certainly beats not doing anything at all.
Otherwise, you need to examine your conscience in your heart in matters like this. I will readily admit that a family law attorney is not necessarily equipped to give excellent advice for subjects like this. However, all of us have a voice inside of us. It tells us when something is right and wrong. If you have examined that voice closely, considered your alternatives, and collected information, then now may be the right time for you to get a divorce. This could be especially true if you have no children, in this time of year is no different for you than any other. In that case, filing for divorce at the end of 2021 can help you jump on those choosing to wait to file for divorce until the beginning of 2022.
The other thing that I would mention to you is that if you expect to file for divorce at the end of 2021, do not expect divorce to be kept a secret from your spouse and allow your case to move forward. Remember that it is merely a piece of paper at the courthouse once your divorce is filed until you serve notice upon your spouse. This means that your spouse will be formally notified of the divorce by a process server or constable. If you planned to file for divorce now and wait until the beginning of 2022 to do anything with the divorce, that truly does not make much sense.
If that was your plan, you were better off waiting to file for divorce until 2022. That way, the holidays could be past you, and you wouldn't have any issues in terms of wanting to delay to avoid making a holiday season unnecessarily awkward. Imagine having relatives over then having them discuss with you the pros and cons of a divorce. Not precisely which you want to be spending your time doing. Additionally, if you already have plans to have family over for the holidays, then I may assume that the situation in your marriage is not all that dire. In that case, you may want to hold off on getting a divorce until after the holiday season has passed us by.
Deciding to get a divorce and the impact on your children
One of the most important factors to consider when it comes to whether now is the right time for you to get a divorce is about your kids. For any parent who goes through a divorce, time and time again, I will be told that the most important consideration that they play about their case is their kids. Therefore, you should consider their best interests and consider whether now the best time is to get divorced. Here are some of the factors you can consider when it comes to your kids in your divorce.
On the one hand, you need to consider the needs of your child regarding creating a stable and loving environment for them. However, the degree to which a divorce will impact that is truly in the eye of the beholder. This is an area where I can't give you good advice about your specific circumstances because I don't know them. Instead, it would help if you relied upon your own family's needs to guide your decision-making. If it does not make sense for your family to get a divorce, you likely should hold off. It may be an awkward time for you to get a divorce. Then again, getting a divorce is somewhat like having kids: there will never be a perfect time to have kids, and there's never going to be an ideal time to get a divorce.
One area that I would look to and focus on if I were you would be about conservatorships rights and duties. If you are experiencing some degree of problems with your spouse and you do not see eye to eye on these subjects, then a divorce may be in the best interests of your children. For instance, if you all cannot agree on what religion to raise your children in or how to approach the issue of your child receiving medical care, then this may be a good time for you to consider getting a divorce—putting your child between a rock and a hard place in terms of having their parents not agreeing on essential subjects and not receiving the kind of care that they need.
Looking at things from the perspective of a parent who does not necessarily receive the sort of time with the kids that they may desire, then a divorce may move you closer to the point of acquiring a consistent schedule with your kids. For example, if you are a parent denied possession of your children for an extended period, this is a fundamental problem. Part of being a parent is the ability to spend time with your children. The fact that you were getting denied parenting time with your children speaks to the level of discord in your marriage. For that reason, we can look to a divorce as a way for you to get your conservatorships, custody, and possession rights in writing. At that stage, if you are denied time with your kids, then at least you will have the ability to enforce a court order. Regardless, these are the type of issues that you should be looking to with your children as far as whether it is time to get a divorce.
The significant part about Texas divorces is that you can work through the issues of your case without having to resort to a trial. Saving your children from the back and forth of a contested divorce case is beneficial for all involved. Through informal negotiation or mediation, you can work through the issues of your case with your spouse rather than having to resort to time with the judge. You can save yourself a great deal of time and stress if you can put your differences aside with your spouse and identify what is in the best interest of your children.
Issues related to property in a divorce
The other main area of divorce that I would recommend that you start to think about is property. Specifically, Texas is a community property state where it is presumed that all property is owned equally by you and your spouse at the time of your divorce. This is true regardless of who earned the money that was used to purchase the item. Income earned from most work activities during a divorce is also considered to be Community property. Here are some of the most relevant topics related to community property that you should be thinking about at this time.
First, you need to make sure that you have a plan for after your divorce is over. That plan should not necessarily assume that you will receive spousal support for an ongoing from your spouse. If you have not worked in some time, now may be the time to start investigating careers, temporary jobs, or just something to keep your head above water after the divorce. Unless there is a recent history of domestic violence in the marriage, you must have been married for longer than ten years to have an opportunity to receive spousal maintenance. Texas has a high bar for awarding special care, and judges are more apt to award a disproportionate share of the community estate rather than two awards spousal maintenance.
With that being said, the fears over your long-term employment prospects should not be the primary concern that you have. Keep in mind that you have options for subjects like meeting your four walls and providing for your children. However, you would not be the first to stay in a marriage for financial reasons that obviously should not be your primary motivator. If this is a position you find yourself in, I would recommend speaking with your attorney about the options you have in the likelihood of receiving at least temporary spousal support. This sort of quick support can help bridge the gap between where you are now and where you need to be in terms of a long-term career outlook.
Dividing up community property is the second part of this discussion. It would help if you began to focus your attention on collecting information about the property that each of you owns and determining whether it belongs in your community a state, the separate estate of your spouse, or your separate estate. After that, you can inventory and appraise the property. Inventorying means making a list of all the properties in your life. And appraisement is your best guess as to what the property is worth.
Detailed examination results in you going through retirement accounts, life insurance policies, and things of this nature. A less detailed account could be simply taking photographs of the closets, dresser drawers, and cupboards in your home to verify that certain pieces of personal property do not merely grow legs and walk away during a divorce if you know what I mean. Either way, the best chance that you must prepare for a divorce and determine if now is the right time for you to get divorced would be to contact one of the experienced family law attorneys with the Law Office of Bryan Fagan.
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