Some people are under the assumption that divorce will be easy for them if their spouse is not willing to fight about divorce related issues such as community property, debts, children, etc. While this can be true and there have been cases that have been completely uncontested, the likelihood that your divorce will be uncontested is unlikely. This is because there is a lot to be considered in a divorce, especially if the marriage has lasted long.
Many people are not willing to walk away from a divorce with nothing, and not challenging their rights to their fair share of the community estate. Without the professional advice of an attorney many will be selling themselves short of all they are entitled to out of their divorce, most times because they are uneducated about the rules and codes a Texas divorce follows.
Some will even attempt to do their divorce as a pro se litigant, meaning without the representation of an attorney. This can further complicate things for a divorce case especially if both parties are attempting to go forward as pro se. This is because there are many rules and required forms that an experienced divorce attorney has familiarized themselves with help make the process go smoothly. Although it is not impossible, it is important for a person moving forward as pro se to make sure they are educated.
Next, if your divorce is contested it will likely not be easy. This is because your spouse intends to challenge all divorce related issues, which can be hard if they are persistent. Courts encourage divorces to try settling outside of court to preserve the Court’s already busy schedule. Most divorces will settle before a trial is needed to take place in mediation or arbitration. However, it is not uncommon that spouses looking to make their other spouse suffer will drag their matter in front of a trial court to argue over issues that have previously tried to be resolved. When parties are not willing to work amicably and professionally it tends to drag out the litigation, incur higher costs, and bring more stress for the parties. Parties can file numerous countless motions over the smallest of issues to have their time before the judge. When things like this are done, all it does bring more attorney’s fees and court costs for both parties which adds to the stress of a divorce.
Moving on, a divorce is never easy financially regardless of the amount of money you have. Many parties will struggle to hire an attorney to represent their best interests in a divorce case. While one party may have greater earning power over the other, the party with less earning power will greatly feel the effects of the divorce proceeding. This is because your regular life will continue during the divorce proceeding. All bills and expenses associated with children will continue to roll in regardless. If you already struggled to maintain a decent living, it will get no easier if you are going through a divorce. The fight over assets and accounts can take its toll. However, there are many tips for saving money during the proceeding and ways to obtain funding to help you. Being resourceful is important, because not many people under the amount of hard work, analyzation, and dedication that will be put into your case. There is no fixed amount of how much a divorce will cost, and you should beware of any attorney claiming there is.
Just as important as it is to get a divorce, having a healthy divorce is important to help the process go smoothly. Aside from the actual divorce proceeding, it is even more important that a person focuses on their mental health during and after a divorce. Divorces are said to be one of the most traumatic experiences in a person’s life, closely relating it to experiencing the death of a loved one. A divorce can trigger all types of painful emotions and can potentially lead to depression. Understanding and assessing your emotions during and after a divorce is, if not, more important than getting a divorce. Your entire world has suddenly changed, and the normal routine is disrupted bringing uncertainty for what the future holds.
Now more than ever getting help should be your priority. There are counselors, therapists, and psychologists that are willing to hear the pain you are going through. Talking to someone who was outside of the marriage can give you views about your marriage and yourself that you never noticed. Doctors are willing to prescribe medication to alleviate the suffering a person can feel from depression. There are also suicide hotlines that are available to you should you need it. There is help there to keep you from feeling lonely. Friends, family, coworkers there are people willing to help you go through your most tragic time in life.
If you have children, caring for yourself is essential for your children too. Children are affected by divorce as well, although the focus tends to only remain on the parties. Displaying a positive mental state in front of your children helps reassure them that everything will be alright. It is also important to get your children the help they need as well. Even if this means letting them talk to a counselor, or therapist understanding how your children process a divorce can help you understand how to care for them. It is important not to ignore them when they need you the most, which is why caring for yourself will, in return, help you better care for your children too.
Overall, the divorce proceeding is not intended to be easy. Two parties will argue their case about why they are entitled to a disproportionate share of the community estate. The proceeding itself can affect a person financially and mentally. Going into a divorce, it is important to be cautious of how you will change as a person and knowing the measures you can take to ensure you lead a productive life during and after the final decree has been signed.
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