Divorces are one of those events in life that you can’t help but anticipate its conclusion. Nobody who goes through a divorce enjoys the process. The key to a divorce is to tolerate the process enough for you to accomplish your goals. If your divorce involves children, then it is likely that your children are foremost among your dreams in one way or another. Whether you are the primary caretaker of your children and you want to ensure that you are positioned well to do the best you can for your kids from a care perspective or if you are a parent who is seeking to have a custody split, each of you reading this blog post are likely to have different goals.
However you slice a divorce case, your goals are specific to your point, but they are still worthwhile for you and your family. Coming up with plans is critical. Many people wander into a divorce, but it is impossible to walk out of a divorce and to have any degree of success in your case. Coming up with goals, fine-tuning those goals into achievable and quantifiable goals, and then devising a plan to accomplish those goals is what a divorce is all about. It may be time for you to start thinking about these types of things, whether you want to or not. Ask yourself: what do you want to accomplish in your divorce?
All it takes to get divorced is for you or your spouse to file an original divorce petition. If you follow that step, follow the divorce process, including meeting any deadlines to attend mediation, temporary orders hearings, and eventually settling your case or attending a trial. Do this, and you can get divorced. There is no unique formula for getting divorced in Texas. You don’t even need your spouse to answer your petition. All you need to do is file your case and know how to proceed within the rules of the Texas Family Code and the family court in which your lawsuit will be held.
As with many things in life, the devil is in the details here. The rules of the game may not be complex, but they can take some getting used to. It’s not like you need to be fully aware of the rules of a divorce case as an accountant, teacher, real estate agent, or whatever it is that you do for a living. Instead, there is no reason for you to know much of anything about divorce until one is thrust into your life by your spouse or you choose to do the opposite.
Getting back to the issue at hand, what do you need to consider when deciding on a parenting plan in your divorce? Quite a bit. Let’s consider the significant problems regarding the child custody components of divorce and go from there. The key to this discussion is to create a parenting plan that works well for your children both now and in the future. That is a difficult task to accomplish frequently, especially if your children are young. How can you possibly anticipate every single issue that may arise regarding your kids’ lives between now and when they graduate from high school?
Of course, the answer is that you cannot anticipate every change that will occur in the lives of your children between now and their high school graduation. Life has a way of surprising us. I think the past 19 months have shown us that. With that said, however, there are some steps you can take to put into place the most effective plan possible for you and your children. To do that, you need to have a well-thought-out approach to the case. That starts with considering what is in the best interests of your children and putting everything else in second place. That shouldn’t be difficult for you to do as a parent, but consider what can happen during a divorce to cause you to lose sight of what is best for your kids.
Preparing a schedule of possession for your children
The first issue that comes to mind when creating a parenting plan in a divorce is to think about what kind of possession schedule will be best for the kids. Many factors go into a determination like this. What works best for your family probably would not work best for your neighbors and vice versa. You need to consider the specific needs of your children, their ages, your work schedule in that of your Co-parent. As you can tell, there are many factors at play one thinking about is she’s like this. From my perspective, it would make a lot of sense for you to consult with your attorney before engaging in any negotiation on a possession schedule.
I think this is true because some families need to get highly creative when it comes to creating a possession schedule for themselves and their families. As a result, you may not even be aware of all the different possibilities available for your family when it comes to situations like this. With that said, your attorney offers a wealth of experience in creating plans that work for your family now and in the future. Use that experience to your advantage. Once you have an idea of a plan that seems to work well for you and your family, you can talk with your Co-parent to see if any of your thoughts are in line with what your Co-parent is thinking about as well period from there, you can begin negotiating on this subject in earnest.
This is a complex subject to negotiate through because you have to consider the day-to-day lives of your children in going to school and holidays and vacation time. All the traditions your family has in terms of Christmas, Thanksgiving, and every other holiday will have to be modified in all likelihood because you now have to share time with a Co-parent. This will take some flexibili