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How to help your children succeed in school after a divorce

Even the most resilient children will struggle to some extent when their parents are Divorced. The change in routine, the emotional void left when one parent is no longer physically there in the home, and the possible feeling that their actions led to the Divorce can wreak havoc on a child's psyche. Some children are relatively disengaged from the Divorce and seem to be ok. Still, from my experience, these children can be especially vulnerable to allowing a divorce to affect their lives profoundly.

One area where your children are especially susceptible to the stresses associated with Divorce is school. With so much of their academic performance tied to concentration and self-confidence, it is no wonder that the feelings of loss that can come after a divorce impact their ability to succeed in the classroom. What occurs at home will invariably affect your children in their second home.

How can you and your ex-spouse prepare your children for your Divorce and equip them with the mental fortitude to continue to do well in their studies? The Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC, has tips associated with that topic in today's blog post.

Prepare your children for the Divorce, but talk to your spouse before you do it alone.

Trying to keep your children insulated from the divorce proceedings is, on some level, a good thing. Divorce has nothing to do with your children, and more than that, it is likely that they cannot understand the issues surrounding Divorce. What you and your spouse are going through has little to nothing to do with how much either of you loves the children and what it means to you to be a parent.

With that said, keeping them entirely in the dark is not a brilliant idea. Whether or not you choose to share any details about the Divorce at all, your children will begin to notice when their mother or father is no longer living with them. That is the sort of physical void that will become apparent to them immediately, no matter their age.

With this in mind, it is suitable for your children to know that you and your spouse are moving forward with a divorce. It is best to do this together. Older children may understand that you and your spouse are still a team when it comes to parenting. It is worthwhile for younger children and older children to physically show that you are still a unit in the most critical area of your life: parenting.

Your children will react in some way towards this news. Whether they take it in stride and go about their regular lives or break down emotionally, you will need to be prepared for a wide range of reactions. Having this talk with your children will not be easy, but it is necessary, and it will benefit you, your spouse, and the children in the long run.

A word of caution here would be only to share appropriate information and context for your children based on their age.

If you have very young children, they cannot understand Divorce's emotional or relational aspects. For young children, it may be enough to sit the children down, explain that either mom or dad will no longer be living with them, and reaffirm the love and commitment of both parents no matter what change they begin to notice.

Constantly reinforce the love of both parents.

As we get older, it is frustrating to hear something more than once. Whether a boss or a spouse, we begin to tune a person out once we hear the same thing out of their mouth time after time. If you are the parent of a teenager, you would probably attest that high school-aged children are already adept at reacting to repetitive messaging this way.

However, some messages bear repeating and should constantly be hammered home to children of all ages. The first is that the love of both you and your soon-to-be ex-spouse will never stop. Reaffirming this message is the most important to emphasize to your children.

Help your children understand that their feelings are important and don't feel good is expected.

Your children may feel that their own opinions of feelings of grief may not be essential or noticed when you and your spouse engage in a divorce and seemingly shift attention away from the children. It should be made well known to your kids that whatever it is that they are feeling is appreciated and essential to both parents.

Additionally, it is normal and not something to be ashamed of if your children feel hurt, neglected, or just downright nasty. You and your spouse will be emotionally and physically available to speak to your children about their concerns at the outset of the Texas divorce. While this availability may not wholly eliminate bad feelings, it can nip them in the bud and minimize their effects in other areas of their life.

Part Two of the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC's series on helping your child succeed in school after a divorce coming tomorrow

We have more to share with you all regarding assisting your child cope with your Divorce and succeed in the classroom. Please stay tuned for that blog post set to be published on our website tomorrow.

In the meantime, if you have any questions about this topic or any other in the field of family law, please do not hesitate to contact the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC, today. Our licensed family law attorneys are available six days a week to answer your questions in a free-of-charge family law consultation. We represent clients across southeast Texas and are proud to do so.

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Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC | Houston, Texas Divorce Lawyers

The Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC, routinely handles matters that affect children and families. If you have questions regarding Divorce, it's essential to speak with one of our Houston, TX Child Divorce Lawyers right away to protect your rights.

Our Divorce lawyers in Spring, TX, are skilled at listening to your goals during this trying process and developing a strategy to meet those goals. Contact the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC by calling (281) 810-9760 or submit your contact information in our online form. The Law Office of Bryan Fagan, PLLC, handles Divorce cases in Houston, Texas, Cypress, Klein, Humble, Kingwood, Tomball, The Woodlands, the FM 1960 area, or surrounding areas, including Harris County, Montgomery County, Liberty County, Chambers County, Galveston County, Brazoria County, Fort Bend County, and Waller County.

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