The purpose of the blog posts that we feature here on our website is to provide you with additional, helpful information that can be used to benefit you and your family if you pursue a Texas family law case. We understand that no two cases are alike in that your circumstances may differ dramatically from those of a person down the street from you who may be in the process of filing for a divorce or child custody matter. However, I believe some issues and topics transcend families and are essential for all of us to consider if we are confronted with the need to file or defend ourselves against a family lawsuit.
This is true even more so during the coronavirus pandemic. To say that the stakes are higher now than four or five months ago would be an understatement. While we are optimistic that this pandemic will end as soon as possible, the impacts that this virus may have on our families are profound. This is true even if no one in our family becomes ill or contracts the virus. Nobody knows how society will change permanently after the virus. We do now that those who prepare for those changes will be better positioned than those who have not thought through the potential impacts, and I’ve had nothing to get ready for life after the virus.
If you are planning on filing for divorce, it is always a valuable exercise to plan and seek answers regarding How to best proceed in a divorce. This is nothing new, and if you were so inclined, you could search through the archives of our blog and find many, many articles about how to prepare for divorce. However, none of those blog posts will have the focus that this one does. Namely, the uncertainty surrounding the coronavirus should cause you to shift your focus and emphasis on the divorce to a few particular subjects. It is those subjects that I would like to discuss with you today in our blog post.
A focus on conservatorships rights
Educational and medical decisions in question are two areas of life for your children that we do not know as much about as we would like to. While we understand that the coronavirus is with us now, we do not know how long this pandemic will affect our area and what long-lasting impacts the virus will have. Most people are confident that our lives will be older regained some semblance of normalcy at some point in the relatively near future. When I think of normalcy for our children, I think about them not being concerned with getting sick from a virus and resume schooling in person, in the classroom.
Resuming life without concern for getting sick two to the coronavirus directly relates to medical decision-making. Since the child is too young to make decisions for themselves with their medical treatment, those responsibilities fall to you and your co-parent. Most parents need only concern themselves with yearly checkups for their children and the occasional bumper bruise suffered playing sports or engaging in other activities. However, the coronavirus has caused us to shift some of our focus to physical health and how parents in a divided household share rights to make decisions regarding medical subjects.
If you are in the process of going through a divorce, you should pay special attention to how you negotiate over rights and duties as a parent. Many parents focus most of their attention on the time they can spend with their children. However, raising a child has more to do with right some decisions about their well-being than it does even how much time you can spend with that child in terms of days per year. If something were to happen to your child’s well-being and here, she required consistent medical care, he wouldn’t be happy if he traded rights and duties to make decisions and have an input; they were to have a few more days per year with your child.
What I would look at right now is ensuring that I, as a parent, can express my opinion and impact the type of medical treatment my child can receive both now and in the future. Examine the physical needs of your child and whether or not you believe that your child will require consistent medical care in the future. Especially if you think that your child needs more than A basic amount of medical care every year, you should keep your hat in the ring as far as sharing rights to make decisions or even having the final say so.
I’m thinking about fathers here, specifically. Many times, fathers want to have equity with mothers in terms of Visitation time and conservative shipwrights. They consider equality with the mom to be the best-case scenario for themselves with their child. I’m here to tell you that if you are a father who has been an active participant in your child’s life that you are fully able to fight for as much as you consider to be in your child’s best interest as far as rights and duties are concerned.
For example, if you believe it is in your child’s best interests that you be given the final say in making medical decisions for them, then you should fight for that. Family courts in Texas cannot consider gender when assigning rights and duties to a child. Keep this in mind, especially if you hear from others that courts favor mothers in divorce cases. The truth is that fathers often position themselves poorly to take advantage of their rights in a divorce with their child. You can bypass this potential roadblock by being aggressive in negotiation yet respectful of your child’s specific needs.
A focus on Visitation Rights and possession schedules
families that live under court orders rely on predictability and stability one planning their lives. What you will learn if you ultimately do go through with the divorce is that you are negotiating for long-term solutions to problems that are complex in ever-changing. We have seen with the coronavirus crisis that things seemed to be different from one week to the next. Suppose this crisis is prolonged, and the chances of you and your children getting sick at any point increases. In that case, you will want to make sure that your visitation and possession orders are crystal clear as to what to expect in the event of an illness suffered by either parent or your children.
For those who have already gone through a divorce, I can tell you that your parenting plan very likely does not discuss anything having to do with what occurs if someone becomes ill. It is assumed that people will get sick with colds and maybe even the flu during a year and that the parents of a child will have to come together to resolved questions regarding makeup Visitation And possession schedules. However, these orders could never have anticipated the degree to which someone may be at risk of getting sick from a virus-like COVID-19.
As someone who is currently considering a divorce, what that means for you is that you need to place more of an emphasis on What happens if someone contracts the virus or otherwise becomes seriously ill. Again, I would not say that the odds are in your favor of catching the coronavirus or any other serious illness for that matter. However, this pandemic has brought to our attention that it is easier than we may have thought of previously for a person to get sick and otherwise be unable to visit with her possessed child. As a result, building some language in tier core orders would make sense to reflect this reality.
I am thinking about language that allows for a process to go into place when a parent or child gets ill with a sickness that is set to last longer than A few days. For example, how would you and your spouse plan on resolving issues if you have to miss two or three weeks of Visitation time with your child due to your recuperating from the coronavirus? Rather than Leave this subject out of your orders and leave it up to you and your ex-spouse to consider this subject after your divorce, I would build some language into your orders that allow for a concrete plan to go into place as far as how to resolve this issue.
I would want to avoid a situation where you have already missed a couple of weeks of Visitation with your child due to getting the coronavirus. Once you are healed and are ready to resume regular Visitation with your child, you approach your co-parent and initiate a discussion with them regarding getting back some of the time, but you lost due to your illness. If they are not agreeable to working with you on the subject, then you have precious few options at your disposal if you do not have language in your divorce decree that directs you all where to go from there.
If they give you a hard time negotiating for additional time together, you need to either forget about the time you lost and move on or file an enforcement lawsuit against them. The trouble with filing an enforcement lawsuit would be that if they are not technically in violation of any aspect of your court order, you may have difficulty winning that lawsuit. The judge would essentially have to award you some finding based on fairness grounds (equity) rather than based on the letter of your family court orders.
Again, however, if you had anticipated this issue coming up and had built language into your family court order that challenges expected in this area, you would be able to point to a specific provision that your ex-spouse violated when filing your enforcement. An enforcement lawsuit should not be seen as the best option. Still, it may be the only option if negotiations over rescheduling visitation time for your breakdown and do not succeed.
Closing thoughts on choosing a focus in your divorce
if you are on the cusp of filing for divorce in Texas and have children, then it is pretty apparent that your kids will be your focus. This was true whether or not a virus struck our area. However, given the extent of the damage of this virus and its probable lasting impact, it will be foolish not to think about issues related to your children One considering this virus. While you do not need to plan your entire divorce around the virus, it is wise to assess any potential changes that will be seen due to COVID-19.
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