Suppose you are familiar with the blogs that we post here on our website. In that case, you know that I will often advise you to be intentional when it comes to preparing for a family law case—being deliberate means that you should consider your options, go about selecting the best option for you and your family, and then set a course for how to accomplish your goals. You will face many different options to choose from as far as paths to proceed down during a Texas family law case. With the assistance of your attorney, it is up to you to select those options and determine the goals that will put your children and yourself in a good position after your divorce.
The trickiest part of a divorce case is determining how to initiate the claim. Even if you and your spouse have been going through rough patches in your marriage, it is still a massive leap of faith to move towards divorce. You may feel that the marriage is over and that there is nothing left for you to do to salvage it. However, it is a big jump from feeling that way to moving towards an actual divorce. Thinking to yourself that hypothetically speaking, a divorce wouldn't be the worst thing in the world for you to filing for divorce and planning to get a divorce is a substantial leap for you to make.
Do not underestimate the immediate changes your life will undergo when you decide to move forward with the divorce. This is true even if you and your spouse have talked about getting divorced and if he or she is anticipating you to make this kind of move. There are financial, emotional, familial, and so many other factors to weigh in this decision that you should not be anything but intentional about how you go about beginning the divorce process.
One of the things that people tend not to do, that they probably should, is to truly take some quiet time to yourself and think about whether or not the divorce is something that you want. While it is true that you and your spouse can always back out of the divorce and go through the process of attempting to reconcile, I can tell you that most people who start a divorce end up getting divorced. The idea that you and your spouse will look at each other over a mediation table in rekindling some lost love is a fantasy. If you go through a divorce case, you will end up getting divorced more often than not.
When it comes to the planning stages, no road map can work for every person. Yes, a divorce and the laws that apply to divorce apply equally to all persons in Texas. However, just because you and your spouse are equal under the law does not mean that your divorce is similar to the circumstances of any other person who is getting divorced in our state right now. You all likely have scenarios and possibilities within your marriage that necessitate you to develop a unique exit strategy that can help you build momentum into your divorce.
Consider all of the different factors in your case and your life, and that will inform you how best to proceed. Do you have children? Do you own a home? What are your goals for divorce in terms of custody of your kids and ownership of your home? Do you have the financial wherewithal to survive independently from your spouse for some time? In today's blog post from the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, I would like to provide you with some information That will hopefully help you prepare for a divorce in Texas. While I don't believe that every tip here will be relevant to you and your family, I think that much of what I provide you with today will be helpful for a majority of you reading this blog post.
On the other hand, if the information that I provide you with here still has you asking questions and leaves you in doubt about your particular divorce scenarios, I would recommend you contact the Law Office of Bryan Fagan today. Our attorneys are eager to talk with you about your circumstances and listen to your concerns.
We will walk you through the divorce process and help you to pinpoint those issues that may be most important to your divorce. A consultation with one of our licensed family law attorneys is free of charge. We offer consultations in person at our office, over the phone, and via video. We want to make this experience as convenient and easy as possible for you so that you can get back to your family and planning out the following stages of your life.
Planning your divorce when you have children in the house
if you are a parent who has children under the age of 18, you will need to think long and hard about those kids and what your goals would be in the divorce. To pack your bags and leave the family house with your kids remaining with your spouse is probably not a wise idea for many perspectives. For one, it will likely be challenging for you to leave your children and not take them with you. I can't put myself in any of your shoes considering a divorce, but being apart from my children for any length of time is tough for me. You probably feel the same way and would need to think about whether or not you could emotionally handle being away from your children in this way.
On top of that, you need to consider whether or not you seek to become the primary conservator of your children after the divorce. A primary Conservatory has the right to determine the primary residence of your kids and receive child support on their behalf. These are two significant advantages of a custody situation. You need to think about whether or not this is something you are interested in and whether or not you have a chance to be named primary conservator compared to your spouse.
Assuming that you do have goals to become the primary conservator of your children after the divorce, it would probably be foolish for you to leave the family home with her children behind simply. Although there may be mitigating circumstances in play, a judge would be very Unlikely to view this behavior as something that will be becoming of a primary conservator. Think about it for a moment: you are leaving your spouse to care for your children by him or herself without your assistance. The reason you left home was to begin a divorce and start a separate life. These are not the best optics to initiate a divorce case with.
Planning your divorce when you do not have children in the house
The situation becomes somewhat easier to manage when you do not have children under 18 living with you and your spouse. Although spouses in Texas must support one another under Texas law, there is no added pressure for you to care for your children both from an emotional and financial perspective when you don't have kids that are minors. In this case, my recommendation If you are considering divorce would be to get yourself organized well before leaving to start your divorce on the right foot.
The reality of your situation is that you may not be able to reenter your home at any point soon. Or, if you can reenter the house, you may only be able to do so for a relatively short time to collect your belongings and head back to wherever you are staying. In that case, you can expect your spouse and other people to be in the home, keeping a close eye on what you're doing. These are not the best circumstances for you to attempt to get yourself organized before starting a divorce. Here are the steps I think you should take when preparing to leave your marital residence.
First, you should ensure that you have access to files and information on your computer when you are away from the house. In the old days, this might mean taking a zip drive in copying files from your home computer so that you have access to them when you are away. However, in this day and age, so much information is stored on "the cloud" you may not even have to do this. I would still look through your computer and find any documents you may need for your divorces, such as tax forms, retirement account information, and title documents, and have copies available for yourself.
The other step I would take if you are preparing to leave your marital residence would be to photograph every room in your home, including the closets, in order so that you may keep track of what property is in your home the moment you leave. The reason I make this recommendation to you is that you may be surprised to learn that sometimes items at home tend to "walk away" once you are gone. If you own firearms, other valuables or have a significant amount of cash in the house, I would advise you to document how much of each item you own and photograph where everything is stored.
This way, you will have proof of what was in the home when he left if there is a future dispute. You do not want to put yourself in a position where you have to argue your word against your spouse when it comes to what property you all alone. Again, you may not be getting back in the house, and this may be your best opportunity to document in inventory your personal property.
Planning a divorce with your family home
Finally, I wanted to spend some time discussing the family house. For most of us, the family house is our most significant asset. As such, we want to make sure that it is cared for and dealt with appropriately in a divorce. If you have children in want the house to remain yours after the divorce, you should not leave the family house for any reason; for any time, I must order to do so by a judge. Again, my general thought on this is that it is difficult to get back inside literally or figuratively once you leave the house. Showing your willingness to stay by your children and care for your home during difficult times should be a positive in the eyes of your family court judge.
The other point that I would like to make regarding the family home is that if you cannot afford To remain in the house after the divorce, you should not attempt to do so. Do not assume that your spouse will be paying you spousal maintenance after the divorce, and therefore, you have the money to stay in the house financially. Please do not assume that you will receive a disproportionate share of your community estate and thus be able to sell a portion of it to pay off your mortgage or is into divorced life.
You need to start a budget for yourself based on your anticipated income after the divorce and determined whether or not the mortgage payment, taxes, insurance, maintenance, and general upkeep of the home are too much for you. If you have any second thoughts about your ability to care for the house financially, you need to decide to either allow your spouse to take full ownership after the divorce or move to sell the home and split the proceeds from the sale. A house is not a blessing when you are not financially capable of caring for it.
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