When trying to establish a common law marriage in Texas these scenarios alone are insufficient

Over the past few days, the attorneys with the Law Office of Bryan Fagan have worked to share with you some information on common law marriage in Texas. The point of our discussions has been to tell you what is and what is not a common-law marriage from the perspective of a family court judge. Ultimately, that is all that matters- having a judge declare that you are or are not common law married. A common law marriage means that you must go through a divorce just like any other person who gets married in a traditional ceremony to end the relationship. In recent years, I have spoken with several potential clients of the Law Office of Bryan Fagan, who have tried to convince me that they are common law married based on many different circumstances. It takes more than one or two circumstances being in place to establish a valid common law marriage. Today we will go through some cases that will not establish a common-law marriage.

When is there no evidence of you all holding out to others that you are married?

To be common law married in Texas, you must be able to establish through evidence offered to the judge that you and your partner held out (made public) to members of your community/family/etc. that you were married. You do not have to state that you are merely common law married or anything like that. However, you do need to plant the idea in these people’s minds that you are married. How can you do that? The reality is that it takes more than just a few separate acts held in isolation. Typically, it is a series of actions that occur over months or years that establish the validity of a common-law marriage claim. This does not mean that you can’t show that this condition is in place only throughout a three-day weekend. However, I believe it is essential to know a preferable method and which ones do not work typically. For instance, if you and your significant other are renting an apartment, it would be good to look through your rental agreement to see who signed on the dotted line. If you both signed on the lease agreement, you have moved closer to holding out to the community that you are married. A lease agreement with only your name does not help your partner in attempting to argue that you are holding yourselves out as being common law married. Likewise, if you are admitted into the hospital and, when filling out the paperwork, states that you are single, this would not show that you are common law married. Your state of mind when you fill out the paperwork would help show that you do not consider yourself to be married. If you don’t consider yourself married, you cannot be in a position where you are holding out to the community that you are married.

You need to cohabitate to be found to be common law married

Residing under the same roof is an essential part of establishing the formation of common-law marriage. If you and your significant other do not fulfill this requirement, you will not be able to develop a common-law marriage. For instance, even if you have held out to others in the community that you are married and evidence that you all agreed to be married, that is not enough to establish a valid common law marriage. If you and your partner never reside together as husband and wife, then you miss out on the most obvious of the requirements. It is among the most obvious because residing together in a home is either quickly established or disputed. If you never live with your spouse and keep an apartment or house all to yourself where you go to spend the night, then you miss out on establishing this necessary element to a common law marriage in Texas. Even if you did decide to live with your spouse, you need to follow through on your family. Having a moving checklist, hired a mover, and boxed up all of your belongings for a move to your spouse’s home- but then never following through on the move- does not check this item off the three-part list for establishing a valid common law marriage. You have to get the action taken care of and then prove that it occurred in a courtroom to meet the requirement under the circumstances like these. There is no requirement for intimacy concerning establishing a valid, common-law marriage. In and of itself does not go to show beyond the shadow of a doubt that you are common law marriage. So, too, the absence of intimacy does not alone establish that you were never common law married. If you are hanging your hat on the fact that you and your spouse never “consummated” the relationship and therefore were not common-law married, I believe that you will be surprised to learn that this does not establish your case in and of itself.

How to agree to be married impacts a common law marriage finding

You must agree to be married to have a valid common law marriage. It seems like an obvious statement to make, but it is one of the three requirements in Texas. This means that you cannot argue that you were ambivalent towards the idea of marriage and establish a common-law marriage this way. Similarly, you cannot state that you assumed an agreement was in place. There needs to be some memorialization (preferably in writing) to establish the existence of common-law marriage. Without it, the typical law marriage boat will sink. Physical signs of affection are not in and of themselves sufficient to prove an agreement to be married. We can all recall instances of hand-holding and other characters of appreciation we have displayed with people we never intended to be married to. Just because you show love to another person does not mean that you want to marry them. If you plan to tell a judge that you and your partner are deeply in love and very affectionate to establish a common-law marriage, I suggest you have a backup plan ready to go. On the other end of the spectrum, if you are genuinely ready to commit to your partner and intend to ask them to marry you, then that alone does not constitute a valid common law marriage, either. Even if you follow through with your intent, get down on a knee, and ask your girlfriend to marry you, then it doesn’t mean that you are now common law married or that there is an agreement to be married. Ring or no ring, this is true. Consider that when you intend to be married the ordinary way folks get married (a proposal, acceptance, engagement period, and then marriage) even after getting an “I do” from your girlfriend, that does not mean that you are married. You have to get the marriage license and undergo a ceremony to be considered validly married in Texas. The same is true for you in a common-law marriage situation. Until you and your partner agree to be married and make that official to one another, you are not married. The intent at a later date to decide to be married is insufficient. You must agree here and now to be matched, evidence that desire to the other person and then begin your life as married persons to fully agree to be married. Deciding loosely to be married at some point in the future (after you buy a house or pay down debt, etc.) is not good enough.

Marriage is not the place for training wheels or a test run.

Many of us view dating and marriage as trying to work out the kinks and only then committing to a relationship for the long run. Indeed, that is why I have come to find out many people begin living together before marriage. They want to make sure that the shoe fits just right- to put it in terms of a metaphor we can all relate to. If this describes you, you should pay attention to this section of today’s blog post. If you are trying to figure out that your relationship has marriage potential, that does not establish a common-law marriage. Establishing a common law marriage is about more than a feeling. You need to prove that three conditions (agree to be married, hold out as married, and live together as husband and wife) are all present. Stating that two conditions are in place while the other is almost in place does not pass muster. If you are in a position where you need to show that you were common law married, you must prove that you and your partner agreed to be married. If it appears to a court that you were in a testing phase in the relationship and would decide to be married if the test phase worked out the way you hoped, then it would. A judge will likely find this is not sufficient.

Commitment does not necessarily equal an agreement to be married.

Anyone who has ever been involved in a relationship where your partner has gone through difficult circumstances (an illness, job loss, mental impairment) and has been stuck by that person can vouch for how difficult it may have been to do so. Committing to a person who is not of sound mind at that moment or who is going through physical challenges speaks volumes of your patience and character. If that describes you, I hope that the relationship turned out the way you wanted it and that your partner’s condition improved. With that said, if you have ever told your partner that you would be by their side through these sort of difficult life circumstances, that doesn’t mean that you have agreed to be married—an agreement to be married needs to be explicit. You are committing to one another for the long run, or telling your partner that you are there for them now and in the future are all assurances of various sorts. However, they fall short of agreeing to be married. Of course, you should be careful of what you say to a person going through difficult circumstances. Your words of encouragement may be taken the wrong way. You should be clear about your intent so as not to confuse or needlessly hurt your partner. However, you should not fear a finding that you were common law married to your partner just because you agreed to stay by their side through a complex illness or similar circumstance. Book an appointment with Law Office of Bryan Fagan using SetMore


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