Recognizing signs of a pending divorce is important. Many times, we can ignore or overlook issues in our marriage. Sometimes these issues may even be overlooked for extended s. We are all prone to getting wrapped up in our situations and circumstances. Rather than addressing problems in our marriages, we may let them fester and become ongoing issues. The longer an issue persists the less likely that your family will be overcoming that problem. As a result, this is when a divorce becomes more likely.
As a busy woman, you likely have much on your plate now. Concerns about work, your family, and your children are constantly swimming around in your head. On top of that, issues related to your marriage add to the sense that life is speeding up at a time when you can ill afford it. If you want to be able to manage a pending divorce you need to first recognize the signs that a divorce is coming.
Today’s blog post from the Law Office of Bryan Fagan provides you with an overview of some of the signs of divorce. Again, preparing for a divorce Does not make you a bad person. Being aware of the circumstances involved in a divorce just makes you a person who is willing to prepare and plan. Ultimately, this will serve you and your family better than burying your head in the sand.
Women play a variety of roles in our society
When it comes to the modern world, women are just as likely as men to work outside the house. We see dual-income households succeeding in record numbers. With all the changes in our world when it comes to costs of living and inflation having both spouses work outside the home is a necessity for many families. As a result, we see women wearing many hats as opposed to generations in the past.
Because women tend to have varied roles in our culture that means your attention must be divided equally between several different areas in your life. Instead of being able to focus solely on your children or even on your marriage, you are now in a position where you must be able to emphasize work, as well. On top of that, there are social commitments, the activities of your children, and many other areas to consider.
At the end of the day, it is not enough to throw up your hands and ignore troublesome areas in your life. It may feel like the right thing to do or something sensible at times. However, ignoring problematic areas of your life is a recipe for long-term struggles. In your daily life, it can feel like you have no one to support you as divorce approaches. Problems with the daily issues you are facing compound when you are in marital strife. Turning to your family for support is a logical next step to take.
Feelings of doubt are not uncommon
As you proceed into uncharted territory in your marriage it is time to assess whether there are steps you need to be taking related to a divorce. This does not mean that you must immediately hire an attorney. Thinking about a divorce does not mean that you are necessarily going to get divorced. What it does mean is that you are being conscientious of The problems you are experiencing at home. Fortunately for you, there are steps that you can take to help you avoid the need for a divorce.
Talking with your spouse about the problems that you are observing in the marriage is important. Determining whether your spouse is willing to work with you on fixing these problems is a major step in the right direction. Ultimately, If you believe that there is a problem in your marriage then that ought to be enough for your spouse to be willing to work with you on fixing the problem. Attending counseling or therapy may be in everyone’s best interests. You can work with your health insurance provider or other resources to determine whether there are resources in your area to suit your specific needs.
Having doubts about the strength of your marriage is certainly not uncommon. Many people experience problems in their relationships from time to time. All of us married people have arguments and disagreements with our spouses. Being able to address those issues honestly with your spouse will determine whether those problems can be overcome. When you are experiencing marital issues, it is reasonable to take a step back to have those issues addressed by your spouse. Depending upon how he responds you will know with greater clarity whether a divorce is a possibility in your situation.
Several important considerations in divorce
Heading into a divorce means planning for certain possible outcomes. For instance, in any divorce, there are two major areas for your consideration. The first has to do with child custody issues. A second area of concern is property division. Many people who head into a divorce do so without a plan. While it is certainly possible to wander into a divorce it is extremely difficult to wander out of one. The divorce will place stresses on your life that you may not have been aware of previously.
Coming up with a plan for your case is important but not always easy. At the beginning of a divorce, it can feel like your head is spinning. One moment you are focused on child custody issues and the well-being of your kids. Next thing you know, your spouse is trying to push for something you are not in favor of when it comes to the division of your marital estate. When we have so many things going on in our lives the reaction could be that you begin to retreat and take no action at all. This is otherwise known as “paralysis by analysis.” You spend so much time and energy focusing on issues in the case that you have less of an ability to come up with a plan that suits your case.
This is where having an experienced family law attorney comes in handy. An attorney with the Law Office of Bryan Fagan knows how to help you plan for the various stages of your case. We do not take for granted the trust that our clients place in us. Rather, we work tirelessly to help each of our clients on an individual level. Are you concerned with your child’s educational needs? Then your attorney will help you come up with a plan that focuses on the well-being of your child in school. Do you have a family business that you want to see passed down to the next generation? And protecting those assets and the business will be priority number one for your attorney.
Texas is a no-fault divorce state
The state of Texas is a no-fault divorce state. This means that you do not need to provide the court with any specific reason why a divorce is necessary. In your petition for divorce, you can state that divorce is necessary due to discord or conflict in your personality. This is all that is needed for you to proceed with a divorce in Texas. There are other issues to consider such as jurisdiction but that is a topic for another blog post.
However, you may allege a divorce based on specific fault grounds. These fault grounds include topics like adultery, cruel treatment, and abandonment. You may choose to include a fault ground for divorce in your petition. This may be beneficial to you because a fault ground can change how a court awards property, spousal support, or custody time with your children. A fault ground must be alleged in your petition and then proven with sufficient evidence. An experienced family law attorney can help you build your case if proving a particular fault ground is important.
What does a no-fault divorce mean for a modern woman? It means that you do not need to wait for something particular to occur in the marriage. Marriage divorces can proceed regardless of whether your husband wants the divorce, or not. Rather, you can make up your mind to file for divorce. Once you have filed your petition and served your husband with divorce papers the divorce is often running. When you have made up your mind that a divorce is necessary be sure to move forward with a plan in mind.
Child custody and possession
Mothers frequently describe the divorce process as especially difficult for them. No matter what roles you play in your life, acting as a mother is your most important job. Every mother reading this blog post has concerns about the well-being of their children. These concerns become even more important during a divorce. Your life tends to become a roller coaster during the divorce. Making sure that you are attuned to the needs of your child despite the rocky nature of a divorce is critical.
Understand that alright your divorce mainly looks back at your history of parenting when it comes to determining conservatorship rights and duties. Courts judge parents based on their history and the roles they have played in parenting their children. For example, if you have been the primary caretaker of your children then it is likely that you will continue in this role.
Creating a possession order with your husband will help to create stability and consistency in the life of your child. The more stable a home environment you can provide to your child the better off he or she will be in the long run. This does not mean That your life must be completely stabilized during a divorce. However, it does mean that you need to have a plan for moving forward.
Property division
Division of your marital estate is the other major area of your divorce. When it comes to anticipating a divorce, you can look at the habits of your spouse. Is he being more secretive about money? Does he have seemingly less time for you and your family than previously? Has it been more difficult for you to talk to him about basic family finances? These are the types of questions that you need to be asking yourself. When your spouse is hiding information about finances that is a good sign better divorce may be coming.
You need to do your best to keep from being flat-footed when your spouse does act in this way. You will not have unlimited opportunities to access financial information related to your divorce. For instance, we take for granted being able to jump on the computer at home to look at files or online material. There may be things about your finances that are only accessible through your home computer. If you are not able to access your home computer, then you may lose your ability to find out everything you need to negotiate the property division in your divorce.
Begin to collect passwords, usernames, and other relevant information before the divorce begins. The discovery process in a divorce allows you to ask for this information during your case. However, it is easier to obtain this information before the divorce begins. Thinking ahead and planning for possible interference with your finances is something for you to consider when you have time. During the divorce case, it becomes more difficult to account for these issues.
Protecting your rights
You and your spouse both have rights within the divorce. It is not as if one spouse has greater rights than the other when it comes to the various issues of a case. Therefore, you need to be able to understand what your rights are and how to advocate for them. When it comes to your children you can spend time with them during the divorce. Once you have a court order in place your specific rights and duties as a conservator are spelled out. Violations of that court order by your husband can be addressed through an enforcement case.
Be sure to review the temporary orders in your divorce. Temporary orders are created at the very beginning of your divorce. To govern your behavior and that of your spouse for the duration of the case. Included in those temporary orders are our prohibitions against disturbing the other parent when he or she is spending time with the children. If you find that your spouse is violating these rules, then you may need to address the issue directly with him. If he still will not respect your rights it becomes time to consider an enforcement case.
It is not easy to manage a divorce case. You need to be able to devote a great deal of attention to several different areas. That there are relational and emotional the discussion also creates several difficulties for you. However, these are difficulties that must be overcome for the good of your family. The better focused you are on the issues matter the more favorable the outcome of your case will be. Understanding what your rights are is the first step towards promoting and protecting them.
Recognizing the signs of divorce helps you take control of your future
All in all, there are several ways for you to be able to anticipate a divorce. The issues of your case are unique to you and your family. The attorneys with the Law Office of Bryan Fagan understand that your future will be determined in large part by the results of your divorce. The better you can anticipate a divorce the more likely you are to achieve favorable outcomes within the case.
Working towards favorable results for our clients is what the Law Office of Bryan Fagan prides itself on. Our attorneys know what it takes to manage complex circumstances successfully. Even though it can be difficult to work through issues in a family law case there are many benefits to a divorce. The idea of a divorce is unpleasant, but it may be necessary for you to be able to move forward in your life.
Looking at a divorce means considering all the potential outcomes of a case. In today’s blog post, we have walked with you through the different areas that you may choose to focus on. Thank you for choosing to spend part of your day today with the Law Office of Bryan Fagan. We understand that this may be a difficult time for you and your family. The Law Office of Bryan Fagan and our attorneys are here to help you focus on what matters most in your case and for your family.
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Evan Hochschild was raised in Houston, TX and graduated from Cypress Creek High School. He went on to graduate from Southwestern University in Georgetown, TX with an undergraduate degree in Political Science. While in college, Evan was a four-year letterman on the Cross Country team.
Following in the footsteps of his grandfather and uncle before him, Evan attended law school after he completed in his undergraduate studies. He graduated from St. Mary’s University School of Law and has practiced in a variety of areas in the law- including family law.
Mr. Hochschild is guided by principles which place the interests of clients first. Additionally, Evan seeks to provide information and support for his clients with the heart of a teacher.
Evan and his wife have four small children together. He enjoys afternoons out and about with his family, teaching Sunday school at his church and exercising. A veteran attorney of fourteen years, Mr. Hochschild excels in communicating complex ideas in family law simply and directly.
