The number one cause of divorces in the United States is money problems and arguments/disagreements about money. If you and your spouse are not on the same page about money, it could spell doom for your marriage. The reason being is twofold.
For starters, the fact that you are not on the same page with your spouse when it comes to money can show cracks in your ability to communicate and coordinate together on overall issues, not precisely money issues. The odds are good that if you and your spouse can and do speak about money, you will also communicate about your children and the other pertinent subjects in your marriage. In this way, "money talk" is a canary in the coal mine for your marriage as a whole.
The other reason you and your spouse are not on the same page when it comes to money can be an ominous sign for your marriage is the pure mathematics of what you are fighting about. Suppose money is a weekly or even daily concern for your family. In that case, that means the fundamental areas of life- food, shelter, clothing, your children's education- are not being cared for to the fullest of your ability.
If you cannot discuss money when the economy is doing well (like right now), can you imagine having to do so when times are not quite as upbeat economically?
How to handle a divorce when money is a concern for your family
As I stated at the outset of this blog post, stress and anxiety surrounding money is the number cause of people filing for Divorce in the United States. I think it is safe to say that married people are willing to withstand a lot (for the most part) before making the emotionally and financially taxing decision to go through with a divorce.
I tried, and solid line with clients, that when a marriage's liabilities begin to outweigh its benefits, it is time to consider Divorce. I will say, though, that most of the clients I work with have withstood quite a bit in terms of marital problems. Very few people move forward with Divorce at the drop of a hat (or because one spouse doesn't like how the other chews their dinner).
If money is the root cause of your marital problems, then it may be a significant change in income that may propel you or your spouse to consider a divorce. The loss of a job or a decrease in salary may exacerbate a problem already in existence. It is essential to think and formulate a plan before doing anything like filing for Divorce.
An honest assessment of your current financial state is necessary
First off, you need to evaluate where you are in terms of your finances. What is your home worth? Have you been investing towards your retirement? Can you name all the credit cards you own and how much debt is associated with each card?
You can take away from this analysis your options during and after the divorce is finalized. Are you going to be able to move out of the home and find another place to live with what you have in savings? Or are you in a more unstable position where moving in temporarily with your parents or another family member is more likely?
These are the sort of questions you will need to ask yourself before jumping into a divorce. A problem-solving session with your attorney would be advisable in this regard.
What sort of equity is available in your home?
If your home were to be sold or one spouse bought out of the house, would you and your spouse have equity, or would you be "upside-down" on the mortgage? By upside down, I mean that you owe more on your mortgage than your home could garner on the open market.
Supposing that it is possible for there to be equity in the home, I would next consider whose names appear on the mortgage. If both you and your spouse's names are on the mortgage, the loan would need to be refinanced so that whoever moves out of the house will not have any future liability for paying the mortgage.
Of course, the other important consideration is whether or not you or your spouse would be approved for a refinance, especially during rough economic times.
What has happened with your investments in an economic downturn?
Unfortunately, it's not just your income or your savings accounts that can take hits during tough economic times. Your investments will also most likely see their value decrease. The type of investments you and your spouse have will affect how settlement negotiations proceed. Those sources of retirement that are not as dependent upon the stock market's fluctuations, like a pension, should prove to be more stable during bad economic times.
A consideration to make is if your investments are in a 401(k), IRA, or mutual fund, the value of your retirement account may have decreased substantially. While it is likely that the stock market will correct and your retirement accounts will increase in value in the coming years, you could be looking at pushing back your anticipated date of retirement.
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